subject: The Things To Expect When Trust Has Been Broken [print this page] Some people go through their lives never experiencing the feelings of betrayal or deception or a BROKEN TRUST. For them life is always nice and on an even keel. They cannot even imagine what others, that have had even one of those experiences, is feeling or trying to report.
Have you ever brought solid issues up to your partner, because you need to know, and all they do is get annoyed and accuse you of not trusting them? In all these scenarios, the partner being confronted is either guilty, or not.
They could be guilty but with an honest excuse. They could be excellent at playing the reverse the assault game, making you feel like you are the wrong doer in the finish. Or they plain pretend that they have no clue what you are speaking about and ignore it altogether, again making you out to be the issue in case you persist to query.
When you love somebody, it does not mean that you ought to turn a blind eye and agree with their every thought or decision. You, as your own person have choices. In case you feel threatened or betrayed, you have the right to clear up those feelings.
Because you query your partner about an issue does so not mean that you lack TRUST or LOVE. Matters of the heart are tricky to deal with. One can become defensive and take any query as a personal assault. That is why emotional wars in any relationship are so draining and confusing.
No one wishes to mistrust their partner, but what is one to do when definite signs keep coming up time and time again? Love is only so blind. Some people go through life succeeding in their game of denial or turning the tables to suit them. Then you find yourself mistrusting even more because you are forced to pick about things in your own mind, for fear of being wrong again.
This is where a communication breakdown occurs between two people in a relationship. One time that happens, both parties are on separate roads going separate places and sometime never ever meeting on the same road again.
In case you are any of these personalities listed above and you care about your partner, then you must not let communication fall to the way side. Also you must not take it as a personal assault, but more of a person crying for help. It is them that is suffering from a BROKEN TRUST and they are in need of your patience and understanding. They are not enjoying their torture at all. In some ways they are trying to share the pain with you. I do know that sounds a bit confusing, but to be human is to be a confusion.
Life can be so nice when they have no BROKEN TRUST issues to deal with. Also they must respect one another and not add to the confusion of a "Normal" relationship by misleading or belittling our partner. Relationships are at their best when both partners are at peace and respect one another! Some hurts cannot be repaired, but at least they not need be endured alone!
