subject: Get Ex Back In Half An Hour? [print this page] Relationship intelligence courses were never taught in school. We had to take math, but we didn't get to take classes on how to win back my ex, or how to repair damaged relationships. But in life, we often need relationship intelligence more than math, don't we?
This is never more true than in a break up. Well, here is some relationship intelligence that can help get your ex back. Sometimes, a Short, Powerful Apology can get two people past a break up. If you are willing to fess up for your part in the matter, you can move past a lot of hurt feelings quickly.
Of course, things end for a variety of reasons. But if you ex left you because of something or several things you did wrong to them, like infidelity or fighting, you can sometimes get them back with a good, sincere five to seven step apology. How does this work?
The first place to start with a deep apology is to admit what you did wrong. "I got drunk and said terrible things to you and I know my actions caused you a lot of pain." That is how to admit a wrong. Don't give a bunch of explanations or excuses or arguments. Just say what it is that you did wrong as clearly as you can.
Once you have done this, you are well on your way to forgiveness. When we fight with other people, when we hurt them, before they can forgive they need to understand that we recognize the problem. If you say "I cheated on you and I know this hurt you deeply," your ex will at least know that you understand basic human feelings. It is a powerful start.
Then the next step is something no one ever thinks of when making an apology. And that is to stop talking and get your ex to talk. Ask them "How did my actions make you feel?" When you ask something like that, you open room for your ex to vent. This is a powerful technique that can make all the difference in a deep apology.
Your ex is your ex because they are full of bitter, negative emotions about you and what you did. The good feelings they had for you are covered over by all the negative feelings. You can't get them back until they release those bad feelings. How can they release these feelings? By venting. Talking about them. Getting them off their chest.
If you can get them to vent, you are letting them get all those hurt feelings released. After ten or twenty minutes of venting, they will begin to feel "empty" of those bad emotions, like a cup that was full of muddy water being spilled out. The cup is now empty. Now they have room for forgiveness. There is more to all of this, but venting is a powerful way to start a deep apology that can get your ex back in love with you.
