subject: Does Your Marriage Counseling Book Teach About Givers And Takers? [print this page] Although other people have discussed Givers and Takers, this has been from a different angle than that of Clinical Biopsychology. Based on the Dimensional Systems Model of how the brain operates, the terms describe why people engage in the behaviors they do in close relationships. It assists in accepting the other person is doing only what they are capable of doing given their learning history.
As one learns more about these patterns, it is logical as to why the person behaves either as a giver or a taker. It also leads to a better understanding of why many problems have been insurmountable due to the patterns. However, it then leads to recommendations on alternative ways of dealing with things which can be more effective.
How can it be that this new approach is actually better than previous ones? The simple answer is that a persons own experiences with others will either prove or disprove the accuracy of the information. In fact, the information should be accurate in all relationships, including those in work and school.
Since the concept is new, there is no traditional marriage counseling book which incorporates the information. Hopefully, this will change over the next few years. The brain model was published in 2006, with the first professional article on clinical biopsychology being published the next year. Only two professional papers have been presented to date. Thus, it will take time for this to become more widespread.
At present, there is a book For Better or for Worse: Am I in Love with a Giver or a Taker that discusses the patterns in detail. This is not done in typical fashion of a marriage counseling book since it is written for the individual, not the couple. Obviously, both partners can read it and apply the information.
The field of psychology is like other areas of science. Theories gradually change over time, and theories which explain data better emerge. It is believed that this is the case in relation to the new brain theory and its applications. If true, then there will eventually be a marriage counseling book that will incorporate the new model. At present, the interested reader can go to my website to learn more about giver and taker patterns in relationships.
