subject: The 5 Top Steps To Save A Relationship After Cheating [print this page] Author: JD Dean Author: JD Dean
Wanting to know how to save a relationship after cheating will also guarantee you some more heartache unless you get some committment from your partner that you are bot in this thing together and working together towards a common goal.
It's an emotional topic and we definitely feel for you if you are in this position. It feels a lonely place to be when you're the only one trying to save it. Some of the things you'll need to get on top of first is determining if the relationship is worth saving and if it is, getting the support of the person you want to save it with.
Infidelity is a tough thing to overcome. You need to put your suspicions aside for a start but this is a battle all on it's own. Let's take a look at five tips you can use to help save your relationship after cheating.
Saving A Relationship After Cheating
Tip #1... You need to establish just "how rotten the apple is." In other words, don't be blinded into thinking it was a one time thing. Tackle the issue with no timidness. After all, your future is at stake so until you figure out just how extensive the unfaithfulness is, it will be difficult to move onto the next step.
Tip #2... This ties in with the first point and it's something all too common with couples faced with infidelity issues. Simply avoid the temptation to get your own back by returning the favor and cheating on your partner. By doing this you've suddenly doubled the problem and in all fairness, if either of you are capable of being unfaithful then simply end the relationship now.
Tip #3... Try to get to the bottom of why your partner strayed. If they are a serial strayer then head for the door but if it is just a one-time occurrence then look for something a little deeper. Look at your behavior as well; is there anything you've done or are doing differently from when you first met. Have your partner be honest with the way he feels about you and the issues he has. In other words, it's time to be honest with each other now and unless you are, it will be difficult moving forward.
Tip #4... Saving your relationship after cheating once you established the underlying cause requires some getting back to the past. In other words, think about when you first met. What you both liked to do together. Start dating again or take a weekend trip away even if it's only and hour or two from where you live. get involved in activities together and most of all, be with friends who treat you as an inseparable couple.
Tip #5... Under no circumstances bring up the past indiscretion. Don't be tempted to get back at your partner in an argument by dredging up their shortcomings of the past.About the Author:
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