subject: Bringing Your Ukrainian Or Russian Mail Order Bride Home [print this page] So youve found the woman of your dreams in a Ukrainian or Russian Mail Order Bride. You might wonder how difficult it is to actually bring her to your country. What should you expect once she arrives and what can you do to further ensure success in your relationship and eventual marriage?
The logistics of actually bringing her to your country are pretty straight forward. Filing paperwork and interviews with immigration officials are very similar for most cases. Yes, proper planning and honesty can reduce stress and help avoid delays when applying for a fianc visa or spousal visa for sure. But what about once she arrives in your country? Are you just going to pick her up at the airport and then leave her to get the hang of things while you are away at work all day?
Time Schedule some time off of work so your new wife doesnt feel isolated and become lonely during her first days in your country. Take some time to show her around your town. Show her where things are such as the grocery store, park and shopping mall are. Many things that you take for granted are going to be completely foreign to her. Everything from how traffic signals are situated at an intersection to how different food products are packaged are going to be completely different from what she is used to. Be patient and understanding with her as she slowly adjusts to her new life.
Time in general should be something that you need to devote to your wife and your marriage. Just like any relationship, time is something that cant be bought or replaced with quality time or gifts. She will want to spend time with you and if you are constantly busy with work or want to go off and do your own thing she is going to wonder how devoted you are to her and your relationship.
Friends Be sure to introduce her to some of your friends especially your friends wives. Ukrainian and Russian culture is a little different than Western culture and the bond between friends is a lot stronger and closer than you might imagine or realize. There is a very good chance that your Russian Mail Order Bride will appreciate having a female friend to go shopping with or cook with for gatherings. She might love you to death but having female friends is a part of who she is. Plan ahead and see if you can find a wife of one of your buddies who can check in on her from time to time while youre at work and take her out shopping.
Finding other Russian or Ukrainian people in your local area will help also. In most metropolitan areas there are meetup groups or even small communities of Russian and Ukrainian people. Giving her the opportunity to talk with people that speak her own language and have been through the adjustment to moving to your country will help her tremendously. If you have ever traveled abroad you can understand this; when you do run across someone from your home country its almost as if you have found a long lost friend. If nothing else, helping your wife to connect with people from her own country will help her to perhaps feel a little less homesick.
Understanding In order to really understand culture shock you have to experience it. Imagine being in a country where nobody speaks your language and everything is foreign to you. Even the simplest task becomes complicated because you might not be able to read street signs or the label on something in the grocery store. Even purchasing something becomes frightening because you cant understand the cashier.
Understand that if your new wife doesnt speak your language what might start off as an exciting adventure may very well turn into a nightmare for her very quickly. Your understanding and help can be the difference between the success and failure of your marriage. Even letting her know that you understand how difficult all of this is for her will help. Put yourself in her place and imagine leaving everything that you ever knew. Really think about it. How would you feel?
These are only a few tips that should help your Ukrainian or Russian Mail Order Bride to adjust to the move to your country a little easier. With some patience, understanding and a little planning you will greatly improve not only the success of your marriage but also the depth of your relationship with your new wife.
