subject: How to Save A Relationship - 3 More Weird and Common Ways You May Have Never Thought Of Part 2 [print this page] 5. Touch and caress each other - 5. Touch and caress each other -
As you calmly share with each other your thoughts and concerns hold each other's hand or put your arm around each other and caress their back. This soft touching and caressing is a reconnecting signal that each of you should use even when your emotions are bonkers.
During this heart searching time your partner may tell you some things that hurt, just remember that it's only because they want to improve the relationship. They are not doing it to hurt you on purpose it's just the way it is when trying to unravel the core problems and get to the bottom of it.
6. Develop a plan of attack to solve the problem -
Once you have it all out in the open and have indentified the meat of the problem create some kind of action plan.
One thing you can do is start dating again. Start spending more time with each other and take turns planning the date. Get excited about what might happen on the date if you know what I mean.
You can also make a commitment to spend at least 20 undistracted minutes with each other each day and listen to each other. Turn off all the distractions and just sit there with each other and listen.
If you find developing a plan of attack is difficult there are many simple step by step plans or programs online just like this article.
7. Make It An Ongoing Process -
Let me just say again that saving a relationship is worth it!
But it is a process. It won't happen next week. Now maybe a couple things will happen that you have some laughter and good times but there will always be more tears and challenges ahead as well.
Make a commitment to each other that it will be an ongoing process to get back to the way you once felt about each other. You should always be slow to blame your partner and quick to apologize.
If you are searching for stuff online or reading self help stuff you will read a lot these days about relationships being 50% - 50%. You should give 50% and your partner should give 50%.
But I say something different and probably a little unconventional
I challenge you if you want to know how to save a relationship then make it 100% - 100% expecting nothing in return. Both have to give their all to make it work.
How to Save A Relationship - 3 More Weird and Common Ways You May Have Never Thought Of Part 2
