subject: How Can My Ex And I Get Back Together? [print this page] In order to get back together with your ex, a little introspection is required.
Complete honesty with yourself is necessary
Only you can make the decision as to whether getting back will mean a new start,or just lead you along the same path that was the reason for you parting at the first
We all have a tendency to wear rose coloured spectacles and only see the positive side after all. It is human nature.
Objectivity is the order of the day-you need to see the shades of grey -look at both sides of the coin,and all the other clichs you can think of before you make that decision!
Truthfully,relationships that are totally unsalvageable are in the minority.
You should only consider moving on if ,when you were together- it was a "let battle commence" kind of scenario. If you really did have something honest and good between you then it might be wise to add that into the mix,as you deliberate.
If there was abuse of any kind-consider that.
If they were unbalanced mentally-are you sure you want to go back there?
However,if generally speaking they were stable and non-abusive,you may find the rest of this article good advice;
To push or badger is a no-no. As is excessive attempts to contact them; loads of text or e-mail messages,phone calls or pursuing them relentlessly will damage your cause beyond repair.
Portraying signs of despair again will be harmful. This will virtually guarantee to push them further away-not draw them back to you!
Don't argue, beg, or plead with your ex about your past relationship. It wont be too difficult for you if you will separate yourself quietly and think things through.
Although you will doubtless give yourself a hard time-and get into a guilt trip,and wish you had never said and done all those wrong things,realise what is done is done and let the past stay where it belongs-in the past!
If you decide that because of everything that has happened the relationship with your ex is finished for good what is the point of even trying? You cannot go back in time-and so you need to concentrate on "now".
If you simply back off-give your ex some space for awhile-carry on living your life-keep a positive laid back demeanour-you will find your ex starting to see you in a different light.
You will be seen as more fanciable than ever,and you will be on the way towards a more fulfilling and happy life.
Ultimately-it all depends on you. The decision you make now can have far reaching effects on both your lives. Choose wisely.
