subject: Learn How To Block Negative Thinking And Use Positive Self Talk [print this page] I am asked frequently, what is the first thing that needs to be done to
manage negative thinking and negative self-talk?
The biggest problem is that by the time you catch the negative thinking
or negative self-talk, you're already caught up in feeling bad, feeling
depressed, feeling angry, feeling upset or frustrated in some way.
Research has shown that your thinking patterns, create up to 75% of
your emotions. The self talk and images that you create inside of your
brain are the primary reason that those negative emotions erupt. So
what do you do?
The first thing is not to worry so much about the negative thinking
itself, but instead focus on catching the feeling. The reason to
attend to the feeling first, is that you're always aware of how you
feel. Moment to moment, day to day, you're always aware of all the
feelings going on inside of you. You may not at times notice your
self-talk. But if you catch the upset feeling, know that at that moment
you have negative thinking or negative self-talk going on in your head,
even if you are unaware of it.
Changing the negative to a positive thinking pattern just takes a
little bit of work. So first, you catch the feeling. When the feeling
comes up and you're thinking, "I don't feel so good. What's going on?"
Or you find yourself angry, frustrated, irritated, feeling down, or
sad, notice the feeling and then just ask yourself the simple question,
"What's going on? Where's this coming from?" Immediately, your mind
will pop up whatever that's been going through your mind.
It may be someone you had a disagreement with, a problem at work,
something you have to do that's frustrating or hard, or maybe something
that's overwhelming. When you find what that is, you then look at it
and decide what you can do about it. You then switch your thinking to
a path where you have more control.
You're thinking pattern, has what are called A.N.T.s. Ants are
automatic negative thoughts. Ants crop up rapidly. Just like at a
picnic, ants get into things where they ought not be. These
automatically triggered negative thoughts cause arguments, fear of
taking a risk, loss of effective relationships, and career
difficulties.
Ants are a habit. When you were small ants were a protection mechanism
to keep you out of trouble. If you were going to take an action that
mama disapproved of, these would pop up and say "don't do that!" They
kept you out of trouble. But now as an adult today just block you and
get in your way of achievement. Ants now stop you from doing those
things that are beneficial for you.
Do yourself a favor. Get ant bait. You've got to begin catching those
negative little ants when they begin to roam around inside your mind.
You must become aware of them first, then set the trap and catch them,
so you can then consciously choose a more positive thought pattern.
Negative thinking, negative self-talk, will lead you down the road that
makes your success go in the garbage can. You need to get control over
what you can get control over, which is your thinking pattern. So that
your positive attitude, your positive thinking, the positive thought
process is moved forward step by step through making a conscious choice
to do that.
Thinking is all a brainwave pattern. You have four primary brainwaves,
beta, alpha, theta and delta. Beta brainwaves are any brainwave that
is 14 or more cycles per second, they're really fast. That thinking
patterned brainwave is the trigger. And so when the feeling comes up,
you already have that negative thinking going on so you have to stop
and ask yourself what's going on, catch the situation and then redirect
your thinking down a new path. That's a choice.
Everyday you have a choice, positive thinking, positive attitude,
positive feelings or negative self-talk, negative thinking, feeling
down, feeling out of sorts, it's your choice. Catch your feelings,
then redirect your thinking in a positive, proactive manner.
