subject: How to Be a Good Wife - Know What He Wants [print this page] Intimacy is obviously an important part of any healthy and satisfying marriage. As women we sometimes shy away from intimacy if we're not feeling close to our husband. If we're upset with him over anything, those feelings seep into the bedroom and we'll refuse his advances. If you do that continuously your husband will pull back from you emotionally. He'll feel that you don't desire him and it will bruise his ego in a major way. Keep the intimate fires burning in your marriage regardless of how long it's been since you two shared your vows on your wedding day.