subject: Learn The Secrets To Get Your Ex Back [print this page] If you had a pretty rough break up, then it is also imperative that you focus on your own well being as you work to get your ex back. When you are unhappy as a whole, then you are never going to be able to be happy with your partner. Many women find that a little bit of time focusing on pampering or achieving unattained goals will work wonders for both self-esteem and happiness on the road to salvaging the relationships of the past.