subject: Bouncing Back From Defeat [print this page] Bouncing Back From Defeat Bouncing Back From Defeat
In order to begin we must change the way that we look at defeat. I will agree with you that defeat hurts. It creates scars which sometimes are unbearable but you can recover with the right attitude. Attitude is the key so you must learn how to salvage as much as you can from a bad situation. You may end up at a loss but you will need to cushion that loss and glean whatever you can glean from it.
The first thing that defeat does is that it creates opportunity. Defeat is an opportunity to learn, grow, toughen up, and improve. You are at an advantage because no one expects you to ever bounce back. Since the pressure is off you can take advantage of the situation that everyone perceives and totally turn it around. All things are not good but you can find good in every situation.
You should always learn from your defeats. If you have recently had an incident where you did not come out on top you at least know what not to do. You should take the time to look back at all of the circumstances surrounding your defeat and carefully consider them. If you take the time to evaluate the situation very carefully you will be able to discern the place where everything started to go wrong. You should be able to figure out the things which were under your control and those that you had no control over. You should be able to come up with a plan to eliminate those factors which you did not have control of. If you cant control something the best thing to do is to stay as far away from it as possible so that it wont affect you.
Out of the scars which you now have comes growth. Did you know that the bodybuilders muscle comes from scar tissue? When he or she lifts heavy weights the weights cause the tissue to tear. Muscle is the result of tissue repair.
Now is also the time to adapt and refocus. Now you can refocus and begin to account for your shortcomings. Change whatever it is that you need to change in order to win. Take advantage of this opportunity, make a careful plan, and begin to do better.
Now is the time to get your arms around the situation. Learn how to attack rather than defend. If you only block punches you will get hit sooner or later. Start throwing punches instead. If you throw enough one of them is bound to get through sooner or later. That one punch may very well be the thing that turns your situation around for good.
Dont continue to harbor ill feelings. Ill feelings will not change the situation. It is what it is. No amount of crying, worrying, or complaining will do a thing to change it.
The good thing about defeat is that it shows you exactly what you are made of. It brings to light those small, hidden things that will cause you problems in the future. It is the best time to clean house because you know just where all of the negatives are and how to turn them into positives. Take charge of your situation now and turn a bad thing into a good one. http://cedricrice-A.webcopycat.com> Riceland Enterprises
