subject: Steps to Enhance Your Relationships Ladies! [print this page] Besides money one of the most common sources of break-ups and divorce is sex, or shall I say the lack there-of. Lack of intimacy, lack of creativity, lack of frequency, and the list goes on and on. Many partners start off like fireworks at the 4th of July and somewhere between work, kids, and life happens, the sex life of partners end up like duds that can't fuse a spark. So the question remains what do you do?
First ask yourself, What makes me feel good? What turns me on? Do I know my body well enough so I can teach my partner how to bring me to the ecstasy that I want and need? If the answer is no or you are unsure how to answer these questions, keep reading, because here are some things you can do to bring back the atom bomb in your boudoir.
To find your personal hot spots will take some self exploration. Now not to come off offensive, this involves personal sensual realization. Every woman is different of course and so are our erogenous zones. Some women like their ears nibbled, others may not, some women like direct clitoral stimulation others wont, you have exploration to do to figure that out. To do this, take some time for yourself and this is your day for you to love and pamper yourself. While he out with the boys, the kids are at grandma's, or whatever situation gives you a length of time alone, start out by treating yourself to something sexy! Go shopping for lingerie pick out something flattering to your body type, there are many types to choose from baby-dolls, teddies, sexy chemises, thongs and more. Once you have picked your sexiest choices, find a fragrance that turns you on, something sensual and sexy, here's some examples, try Heartbreaker by Jenna Jameson (sold at the below website) or Lover Girl sold by Lover's Lane. There are linen sprays that enhance romance with pheromone (sex attractant hormones) for a boost like Silky Sheets for a bedroom pick me up.
Now that you have all of your sensual treats, start by low lighting your place with candles, which will allow for relaxation and fantasy. With your ambiance flowing, along with soft music, fill the tub with luxurious bubbles for you to soak in, pick a bath soap that enhance sensuality. Get ready for self exploration.
While bathing consider starting out with a self massage. Starting with the shoulders and neck area use a buff puff or your fingertips, lightly stroke or glide below your earlobe, to the neck then the shoulders, as you do pay attention how it makes you feel. If there is a certain spot that trigger a spark make a mental note this. Continue on to your breast area, note how smooth or soft your skin feels, your partner will notice this too, so should you. Which breast is most sensitive? Left or Right or both? Do you prefer direct nipple stimulation or not? Note to yourself your answers. Going towards the stomach area, glide your fingers along your sides very lightly, how does this feel to you, does it make you squirm a bit? Before going to the"Cove of Ecstasy" stroke or glide your fingers on your inner thighs, behind your knees, and along your calves, see what areas being explored titillates you the most and note these as well, this is what you communicate as foreplay to your partner.
Now that you may be feeling sensual, step out of the bathtub and take a look at yourself in the mirror, and instead of feeling insecure about your body, find what make you sexy! Is it your long kissable neck, is it your deep bedroom eyes, or your sexy long legs, are you voluptuous and full figured with sexiness that light up the room, or baby you got back! Whatever makes you sexy, focus on those areas, caress those areas. Grab some lotion or creamy oils to soften your skin, as do you this, if you begin to feel aroused in specific areas of your massage focus them closely. Lie down if you have to if you need to get in tune with your body.
Now this may be a delicate subject regarding portable massagers, vibrators, and other sensual aides. Choosing a toy is like shoes, it must be a perfect fit. Sensual aides come in varieties just like women, we are again all different. So what do you choose? Start by exploring with your fingers in the cove. Be gentle if you are just starting out, gentle stroking of your pearl (clitoris) should slowly start a fire below. If you don't like direct stimulation, try stroking with silk panties on as a thin barrier. Next, find your G-spot, if you lie on your back and insert 2 fingers about 2 1/2 to 3 inches and do a come-hither you should find your G-spot. With exploration use a little lubricant. Once you have graduated from fingers and you want to try a toy, try bullet, it's small, fairly inexpensive, but it can do wonders! The vibration can send waves of pleasure. G-spot toys are strategically curved to hit that spot head on and to vibrate you into a G-spot orgasm, yes there is more than one type! Multifunctional toys that has beads, pearls, that give pleasure to more than one spot in the cove, can send you to the moon, and again make mental notes to communicate to your partner how they can stimulate you! Need ideas to shop for sensual aides go to a local sex toy store or if you are not comfortable with this, shop discreetly online at http://www.sextoypartiesandfellatioclasses.com get ideas, or host a group session in the privacy of your home with friends. For lingerie examples go to http://simplysensuallingerie.info or host a lingerie party for a group effort. Next time we will talk about pleasing your partner!
