subject: Shyness Kills Nice Guys With Women [print this page] I was talking to a friend of mine who sees himself as a "nice guy", and he had a bit of a confusion about women, nice guys and confidence.
The thing he didn't understand is why do confidence and shyness matter so much to women. He'd hear guys claim that women hate guys without confidence.
My answer to him? Yes of course! A very firm and solid yes!
It is all about the shyness. I have a really shocking revelation to you. Women are literally blind to male shyness. I mean between two guys who are identical, except one is shy, the shy one will get as much as ten times worse results with women.
1) Women don't see shyness in men
Are there women who genuinely dislike shyness in men? Sure, there are women like that. But with most women, its not the shyness they mind. What they mind is how a guy acts when he is shy.
When you actually act shy around a woman, she doesn't know it. If you're too shy to call a woman, she thinks you're rejecting her. If she's flirting with her, and you don't know how to flirt back, she thinks you're arrogant.
2) Shyness prevents the natural mating ritual of the human species
Yes, just like animals, we too have a mating ritual. This ritual requires that males do certain things, and women do others. Shyness screws up this ritual on both sides, but mostly the male side.
One of the universal principles all courtship has is the display of interest. Unless both parties display interest, nothing can happen.
Women actually get offended when a man doesn't display interest, or does it the wrong way. She sees it as the guy being a jerk. She doesn't know its insecurity or shyness.
