subject: How To Attract A Committed Partner For Your Ideal Relationship [print this page] Too many of us have experienced being attracted to emotionally unavailable. We know how painful and frustrating it is to try to convince someone to commit to us whose heart isn't fully there. Yet, we see other amazing couples out there who form true partnerships we could only dream of. Why does it happen to them but not to us? What is it that they are doing? What does she have that I don't? What is wrong with me that I cannot attract someone who would love me and be there for me? There is nothing wrong with you. You know it deep in your heart that you are a loving wonderful amazing human being with a unique gift. What you are not doing is you are not making a commitment to yourself.
You may disagree with me and say that you are committed, but deep inside you may not even know what being committed means. You see, those people you know who met in college and have been married to each other for ten, twenty or even more years have made that commitment long time ago without even being aware of it. They have no idea why you are struggling; they don't understand what you're going through. They met each other, fell in love and they made a commitment to one another. Other people like me and those who can identify with me, met someone in High School or college, fell in love only with someone who ended up breaking our hearts. And now we are wondering if committing to anyone is even a good idea to begin with. You see, I personally don't believe there is such a thing as fear of commitment. There is fear of being inadequate, fear of not being able to pull it through, fear of being rejected, humiliated, loosing yourself and finally fear of not being able to say "no" when you are not interested.
Let me tell you what my definition of commitment is. Commitment is a decision you make in your head based on what feels right in your heart. There is a big difference between committing and settling. You settle based on logic and fear. You commit in the face of fear in spite of logic. You make a decision because your heart tells you this feels right. There may be a whole bunch of "buts" coming up for you. But she is so sexy! But he makes so much money - I could never make as much on my own. I could never find anyone better who would want to be with me so I might as well just go for it. She is pretty, she is nice, and the sex is great -- why not, what else do I need? What you need is your heart. Is your heart in it or not? If your heart isn't there, you have settled but you did not commit. If you think you are madly in love with this man and you have to wait for days or even weeks for him to call you, you are not committing to this person because you are not committing to yourself. Deep in your heart you don't trust him and your heart is most likely telling you to let him go, therefore by the definition of the word commitment you are not committed. The subject of commitment is deep and huge. I could go on and on talking about it, but I only have one page here. There is a lot more I could share with you if you visit my home page and listen to the free audio file I am offering, titled How to Attract a Committed partner for Your Ideal Relationship.
