subject: How To Survive Infidelity: 3 Steps To Moving Forward [print this page] You never consider ahead of time that you will be dealing with one of the worst aspects of marriage. Infidelity dramatically alters the course of any relationship. Finding out that your spouse has not lived up to their marriage vows is a devastating body blow that many couples never recover from.
And then there is the lingering effect after the marriage has been dissolved. Individuals looking for a fresh start find it difficult to be in any relationship because of the trust factor. They dont know if a would-be partner will betray them like before.
Everyone has to find their own path to healing when it comes to dealing with infidelity but there are some general concepts that can help you through this difficult journey.
1. Fault
Many spouses that have been wronged carry this to extreme. They blame themselves for their significant others transgressions. This comes even before their spouse has had a chance to accept responsibility for the affair. Blaming yourself for their actions is an excuse for them to keep doing what they doing.
2. Self Pity
Lets face it there is going to be some. But at some point self pity has to give way to self preservation. The reality is at this point in time there is nothing you can do to change what happened. Now comes the determination to not let their actions stop you from finding the happiness you deserve.
3. Confrontation
It is your choice whether and how you want to handle this. But understand that confronting your spouse with a full head of steam may make your ego feel better but could turn out to be a waste of time and energy. It could also lead you to cross a line that will not do anyone any good. However you decide the important thing is to maintain your power and dignity at all times.
