subject: When is Breaking up the Best Way: Breaking up with Your Boyfriend Doesn't Always Pay [print this page] Author: TW Jackson Author: TW Jackson
It's never really easy to tell if breaking up is the best way. Breaking up with your boyfriend is a step that shouldn't be taken lightly. There are quite a few questions you should ask yourself before you decide to go your separate ways. Knowing these answers can make a huge difference in your decision to stay and work things out or leave and call it quits. Has he broken your trust? Trust is important in a relationship. There's no denying that. Another question you'll want to ask though before you decide that you can't love someone you can't trust is this: is broken trust reason enough to end the relationship? For you it might be. Of course it could depend on the degree of the offense. For some it's all black and white. Other people see varying shades of grey. Was it a little white lie that has you reeling or a giant whopper that has left you with your jaw on the ground? It makes a difference for many people. You just have to decide how much of a difference it makes for you. Why are you thinking of breaking up? There is usually a reason for you to have leaving on your mind. What is that reason? Is this something you can work through? Can it be fixed? Do you even want to do what it will take to fix it? These are all valid questions that can help you pinpoint an answer about whether or not staying is the right thing to do. Do you still love him? Perhaps this is the most important of the questions you should be asking to decide if you're going to work things out and make it all right. Is love enough? This is another important question. Some believe that love is all you need. Others believe it takes a lot more than love. Only you can answer whether or not you still love him and if that love is enough. Has he cheated on you? For many women this is the absolute limit for their relationships. For others this is a test to work through and hopefully make the relationship stronger. Is this your line in the sand? Is this something you'll ever be able to move beyond? You might be surprised at your own capacity to forgive when all is said and done. While the immediate thought may be something akin to castration you can't just turn off the love you have for him on the basis of one act. It doesn't matter how vile that one act may be.About the Author:
