subject: Learn How To Stop Being Jealous [print this page] Jealousy is a feeling of resentment that someone gained something you feel you should have. It is also the fear of losing something/someone to a rival. Jealousy does not have to be a bad thing. Having a protective jealousy is actually a good thing. Would you stand by and let another women "charm" your husband or lies to your child. Of course not, you would stand up for them and fight for them. The unhealthy type is when the jealousy is driven by fear, being insecure or deception.
Living with unhealthy jealousy will fill your life with confusion, bitterness, worthlessness, even disorder. Think about how fun you must be to be around when you give off this type of energy. You will soon isolate yourself, only making these feelings worse. You need to quickly learn how to stop being jealous.
Take a step back and look at your life. Ask yourself some questions. Do you have low self-esteem? Do you have a life of your own? You will then need to take action, fix that self-esteem. Remember, no one knows you have low self-esteem except you and the people you have shown. Stop showing it and start fixing it.
Talk: Talking can help you stop being jealous. You will hear other people's opinions and you will probably learn that you are not alone; you just have to learn to deal with it better. Finding a therapist could help more so than close friends because they will be biased.
Love Yourself: People are so busy with working and family that they forget about themselves. Go out and buy those shoes you wanted, get your hair done. It does not have to be about spending money, it is taking time to really take in where you are at and what your life is about.
Do fun things with spouse: Relationships are work. Have a date night and be attentive and make sure your spouse is attentive to you.
Be your own best friend: When your child or friend/family talks down negatively, you would tell them to stop. Tell yourself to stop also. This may be the hardest part but you need to consciously tell yourself stop and make yourself think about something else. The more you do this, the easier it will be and soon you will find yourself not caring about what others have and loving what you have. You can learn how to stop being jealous and start living a better life for you.
