subject: Proven Method – Breaking Up with a Girlfriend the Right Way Makes all the Difference [print this page] Author: TW Jackson Author: TW Jackson
If you've gone through all the options and the only one left is breaking up you need to find a proven method. Breaking up with a girlfriend is painful enough on its own without adding the injury of doing it in a manner that will cause more pain to both of you. But, what can you do to make the breakup as kind and gentle as possible? Leave no Room for Doubt about Breaking Up Yeah, I know. This doesn't sound kind and gentle at first glance. The thing is if you leave room for doubt about your intentions she'll have false hope. If you're sure this is the end of the line for the two of you then you need to let her know so that she isn't harboring daydreams about winning you back when you least expect it. Don't Cave in and take her Back She's probably going to cry. She's going to ask what she did wrong. She's going to have a million questions. Most importantly, she's going to beg you for a second chance. She'll offer all kinds of things to sweeten the deal and win you back but these are probably kneejerk reactions that she won't be able to deliver on. No matter how great her intentions are the odds are good she won't be able to follow through for any sustained period of time and you'll be right back in this situation in the future. Don't give in and take her back in the heat of the moment, out of sympathy, guilt, or pity. This is not the time. If you decide later on that you'd like to work things out that's one thing. If you give in now it will make breaking up in the future that much more difficult and the scene at that time even more difficult to make it through. Answer her Questions about the Break Up This is important because it gives you both closure. Be as honest and kind as possible when providing the answers. Some of the may be difficult. Keep them short and be prepared for her to offer to change everything that's bad in a final bid to save the relationship. It might be easier to cut and run but if you answer the questions now you might be able to leave her with some peace of mind rather than a head full of questions. Leave the Door open for a Possible Friendship Later Now might not be the best time for the "let's be friends" speech but you can leave the door open if you handle things with understanding, empathy, and more than a little kindness. This is assuming, of course, that you're interested in opening the door for friendship.About the Author:
When you've done the deed and dumped your girl you may find that she really wasn't all that bad. Now you're stuck wondering how to get your girlfriend back. The good news is that step one from this free, incredibly helpful video: http://www.magicofmakingup.com will help you get started on the right foot even if you were the one that called things off.
