subject: In Response to Ivan Velasco By Christopher McClusky [print this page] In Response to Ivan Velasco By Christopher McClusky
Having employed these defense mechanisms for years, it is very easy to develop a sexual addiction once adult notions of sexuality are introduced. Whether the introduction is in college through pornography, in adolescence with the start of nocturnal emissions and discovery of masturbation, or in childhood through some form of sexual abuse, the rush of sexual arousal and orgasm seems to temporarily fill their emotional void. Since this discovery falls in the fertile soil of a person already skilled at hiding, escaping, and performing, it can seem a power too tempting to resist. Mr. Velasco should continue to
focus on intimacy skills and increasingly bring Sarah into their sessions. She will have her own woundedness and issues that need attention. A great resource for ministering to couples is the intensive workshops facilitated by Dr. Mark Laaser and the Christian Alliance for Sexual Recovery (www.casr.org). These workshops and other Christian texts and workbooks should be used to supplement their work. Finally, there are obvious problems in this case with dual relationship. Unfortunately, in third-world countries our ability to work within strict guidelines of ethical practice is often impaired. Mr. Velasco has done the proper thing as a Christian in ministering healing, while acknowledging the blurring of boundaries. He should continue to actively seek other old_resources for healing, while pushing harder for development of a network of friends and accountability partners for Ryan.
