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When you are in a great relationship and suddenly your girlfriend decides to walk out on you, you feel shattered, as if your world is suddenly crumbling around you. You wonder what went wrong to make her feel this way. Your first reaction is to grovel at her feet and beg her for forgiveness, even if you do not think the fault was yours! You want to call her, beg, plead and cry pitifully in the hope that she feels sorry for you and returns. Stop! This is the last thing you should think of doing in such a predicament.
You do not really know what the problem was. You may not be the one at fault. She may have other motives for wanting to leave you. You should only react when you are positive of what went wrong and why. You may ask her repeatedly what the problem was and she may not tell you. You may never know even if you get her back. Take the opportunity of the void created and use it for examining the situation, from different perspectives.
One of the greatest problems of the humanity is the loneliness. Although you may be have tried to ignore this fact, you probably did not succeed. However, do not forget that she might have the same problem and you could act wisely to make the reunion possible.
Anyway, you should remember that blames don't work! If she starts blaming you, do not defend or answer her blames. None of these reactions will give a good result. Just let her pour out her anger and she will appease. This moment is extremely important for eventual reunion as without these few minutes she might never reveal her feelings. Moreover, if she see that you don't attack her, she will later be sorry for her behavior and will try to repair the relationship.
If you are unable to think coherently, as you are too distraught at the moment, then go out and meet up with old friends, whom you have ignored for so long now. Try not to go out in a group as you may feel lost or lonely. Instead, go out with a buddy and try to focus on other topics that will temporarily give you respite, from brooding over your misfortunes. If you do this a couple of times, you may find that your pain is easier to bear and that you may not be in a hurry to get your ex girlfriend back, just yet. The decision is in your hands and you may find that you could do better and find yourself someone who is more to your liking. What is your reaction to this line of thought?
You do not have to sit and mope at home all by yourself. Go out with your buddy or connect with an old friend, whom you have not seen, ever since you got so involved with your girlfriend. Indulge in some sporting activity or take in a movie. You will actually find yourself relaxing, in male company that you have done without, for a while now. When you give yourselves space, the truth will hit you eventually. You will know in your heart whether you are missing your girlfriend or not.
It might happen that in the company of your friends you will forget about her and about your loneliness. There could be even another girl waiting for you. All this is possible and believing that or not it might happen to you as well.
Being negative is not a good way to get your lover back. Instead, talk to her, without getting worked up or emotional. Be convincing in your manner of speaking and let her know that you are sorry for what happened and are willing to give the relationship another shot. Be prepared to start anew, on a clean slate and accept her, for what she is. Let her know that you are ready to make amends and willing to have her back on mutual terms. She should be secure in the knowledge that, together, you can take the relationship to the next level.
