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Breaking up with someone we love is an inevitable fact of life that we all go through at one point. Break ups are different to all the other stuff we do in our lives, because the more we break up, the harder it is. It doesn't matter how many times you've broken up with someone, every new break up is harder than the last. Naturally, this means that there is a period of time after a break up where you really want to get your ex back.
Most relationships follow the same blueprint. Fine and dandy on the first date, but then after getting comfy with the other person, you end up making some small compromises just to get along. Suddenly, some things may become so noticeable that you end up arguing.
It often happens that good relationship in beginning turned into an unwanted burden and you find you are happier when you are not at home. You actually feel that your partner have the same feelings and he even often late after the work because he prefers to spend his time with friends instead with you.
A famous saying, "Familiarity breeds contempt", best applies to this issue. It's not easy accepting another person unconditionally for who they are. The best relationships are based on this acceptance working. Even though you may be trying your hardest to make things work, though, it might happen that your ex still decides to break up with you. There are a number of things you can do to save the day and get your ex back if things turn out bad.
Say that you're sorry. This is one of the hardest decisions for so many people in relationships. It can be because they don't believe they did something wrong, but it can also be simply that they need to be told what they did wrong, they can't see it. Before apologizing it's pertinent to find out what your partner is angry about and why this was wrong. A sincere sorry should also never lead to more fighting. You have to always tell the truth and be respectful.
Discuss the issue. When your ex is prepared to talk about the situation, you should start talking right away and not wait. Don't pressure your ex into discussion, that never works. And again be careful that the things you discuss don't lead to further argumentation. It's important to be wary while you talk to your ex and if you notice the discussion going in a bad way then change tack.
This conversation is extremely important so do not postpone it too long before it became too long for recovering your good relationship. Encourage your partner to start this discussion when he/she is in best mood not under a stress. If you find him/her often in this situation, it is wise to prepare him with appropriate tactics.
Be patient and talk about truths. There is no way you should ever start faulting your ex for the way things worked out. That's the best way to stay estranged. The purpose of this conversation is simply to talk about things as patient, wise and knowledgeable adults.
Give your ex room to move. It might look sensible to rush into things and just discuss your case all over again hoping that your ex will be ready for you. It's not very sensible though, because people deal with problems at different speeds and your ex may not be as up to speed as you are. Don't worry too much about this as it isn't a bad sign, it just means you need to wait a bit more before your ex will be ready to discuss issues with you again. Give your ex the room they need to think. You will know anyway when they are ready by the way they respond to you in conversation.
Resolving a significant problem sometimes is not as easy as we have expected. Patience is extremely important for successful end-result so do not ignore this fact. You have just made the crucial step - now, just let him/her make their.
It's not easy to break up with someone as the famous song attests "breaking up is hard to do". Most likely, the more happy you were with your ex the more sad you'll be without them next to you. But when you figure out how to talk about what the problems were, then your chances will also improve drastically in making a comeback to a great relationship.
