subject: Are You Being Tooled, by other People? [print this page] Are You Being Tooled, by other People? Are You Being Tooled, by other People?
Don't you just hate it when you have known somebody who you think you have a real relationship with, but turns out they're just tooling you?.
What does it really require to have a connection connection?
Well, in any type of relationship, whether that is with a girlfriend, friends or even anybody, there has to be some exchange of value.
When one person is bestowing away more value than is being given back, they will feel taken advantage of; and those who are taking those values without offering any value in return, are value-cravers; they always crave things from other people, and that is the only reason they want to be around you.
However, if you don't have any value to present people, they don't really want anything to do with you.
The thing to make sure whoever you're hanging out with isn't using you, you want to be sure your value given to them is slightly higher than what they are giving you back.
If they aren't reciprocating any value back at all, just offer them slightly higher than nothing, and don't bother offering any more when they ask for more. That's the threshold you set.
Usually the biggest signs you can tell if you're dealing with value-cravers, who constantly ask for things without returning any favor when needed in the future, is that they tend to be unreliable and unreciprocal. When you finally need them, they disappear from you and only show up when they want what you have to offer again.
We all heard the story of how somebody was interested in the other person because they have more money and connections, and those are tangible values; however, the most universal ideal values are intangible, the positive exchange of emotional values.
Now, if you don't have any asset or tangible values they're interested, but they really enjoy and love being around you because you generate this positive energy and that you offer great stimuli to them making them feel great, they don't want to leave your presence.
