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Have you been struggling with marriage problems involving communication, finances, intimacy, trust, selfishness, infidelity or some other issue that's driving a wedge between you and your spouse?
I know marriage problems if left unattended can lead to mental or physical health issues and depending on your situation can make you pull your hair out or your spouse's hair. I hope your marital problems or under control or you are working on getting them there.
Let's talk about 3 of the more difficult matters couples have to overcome in their relationship. Looking at these 3 is not an attempt to minimize the importance of other marital problems but just 3 that I decided to address here.
Infidelity
Couples learning how to overcome infidelity (whether it be an emotional or physical) affair) in the relationship have a challenging obstacle to overcome. The reason for this is that the problem involves a third person. Most of the other problems married couples face involve either one or just the two of them. Once an act of unfaithfulness occurs the sacred bond of marriage and trust has been broken and needs to be repaired.
How to begin healing!
First, the spouse who committed the affair must take all necessary steps to end the affair, seek forgiveness for his or her unfaithfulness, make changes to ensure that it doesn't happen again and work on earning back trust.
The spouse whose heart and trust was broken must be willing and able to truly forgive. It's obviously going to take some time but it's very possible to get past the affair and have a different but thriving relationship.
Finances
Believe it or not finances are the biggest reason for conflict in marriages. The problem with finances is that often times couples justify reasons for spending money and those reasons aren't communicated or if they are disclosed, aren't understood by his or her spouse. So many times years go by and one day the couple wakes up and realizes that they have independently spent more money than they had coming in.
Another problem occurs when one spouse has a dream or vision for the future and wants to save while the spouse wants to live more in the moment. There is a constant battle over spending money and the conflicts result in other problems with communication and intimacy.
Simple solution is to stop living separate financial lives. You need to let your guard down and begin discussing finances and goals. The first goal is to agree that your finances (money, bills and future) belong to both of you. Make sure you discuss the state of affairs and get a good understanding of where you are and where you want to get to.
Selfishness
Marriage problems in my humble opinion mainly are a result of selfishness. Infidelity is an act of selfishness. Financial problems are mostly a result of selfishness. Sure, there are real economic pressures but those don't cause marriage problems. The problems occur when selfishness is present in the relationship.
I would encourage you to examine any problems in your marriage and see if there is some selfishness lurking in the background.
Simple fix for selfishness is to go back and honor your wedding vows. Remember "for richer or poorer", "in sickness and in health" or "until death do us part". Those vows didn't change but perhaps one or both of you did. Go back to the unselfish ways when you were dating. You would do anything for each other than and it should be the same way now.
Please don't give up hope if you are dealing with any of these 3 difficult marriage problems or others. You can make it just like millions of others who have experienced the same problems.
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