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There is a song titled, "Breaking Up is Hard to Do" for good reason. This song is just one of millions dedicated to the heartbreak associated with pining away for your ex and wishing you had them back. The reason is because breaking up leaves us feeling lonely, unwanted, powerless, and sad. In situation like this you want to get your ex back in your life. It is the same for the most of us. Especially if you are the one who was let go in the relationship. But how can you get past that hurt and win your lover back? Read on for some simple steps you can take to get your ex back.
Step #1: Avoid Contact Without a doubt, one of the best things you can do after a breakup is to avoid contact with your ex at all costs. Not only does it make them miss you, it also gives you some personal time to heal. If you stay in constant contact with an ex all it does is keep it fresh in your mind that they do not want to be with you. This only prolongs your feelings of hurt and loneliness. By giving yourself some "me" time you allow yourself to grieve the relationship without dragging your ex through all of your pain. Another positive aspect of having no contact is that it causes your ex to miss you. Ever heard of the saying, "distance makes the heart grow fonder"? The reason why distance plays such a large role in getting your ex backis because when you separate yourself from an ex, you automatically out the ball back in your court. They will want to know what you are doing and with whom? They will also be forced to ask themselves why they left you if all the can do is think about you.
Step #2: Keep Busy
During the breakup period, prolonged periods of down-time will only allow you to wallow in your misery. Don't beat yourself up like that. Instead, enroll your best friends into becoming your new adventure mates and plan activities all week long to keep you and your buddies busy and entertained. A huge bonus to doing this is that not only are you allowing yourself to have fun when you need it the most but you are also re-kindling friendships that may have suffered during your relationship with your ex.
Step #3: Be Happy
Sound impossible right? Seriously though.. if you think happy and remain optimistic, only good things can happen to you. If you are always down and seeing the glass as half-empty, all you are is doing in drawing negative energy to yourself. At this point, negative energy is the last thing you need in your life. Keep yourself surrounded by positive people and do things that make you happy. By this point your ex may try to reach out to you whether it be through text, email, or phone call. One of the most important things to remember when this happens is to ALWAYS sound happy to them. Keep the conversation short and sweet and always on a positive note.
If you follow these simple steps, your chances of getting your ex back will increase dramatically. It will be much more likely that you will get your ex back.
