subject: Start a new year with confidence [print this page] Author: happy pig Author: happy pig
It's 2010 now. Do you have any hopes in the new year? Or do you already have a plan? OK, let's start our new summit with confidence. Heres a simple three-step way to raise your confidence level so gently it will seem perfectly natural. Step one : start small
Identify someone whose confidence you admire then identify what it is in their behavior that marks them out as confident (and check your analysis against the Confident Keynotes below). Introduce that same confident behavior into a no-pressure situation and notice how the people around you respond. Practice. Enjoy. Step two : get good
Introduce the small confidence gestures youve been practicing into a situation where there is more pressure, and notice how your changed behavior elicits an even more positive change in behavior from those around you. Keep practicing. Identify a situation where the pressures really on and rehearse how you want this situation to play out with you using the confidence gestures and attitudes youre now perfecting. Step three : go for it
Wow yourself and everyone around you with your new confident attitude in the high-tension situation that usually leaves you quivering with nerves. Yes, you rehearsed it, but the only person who knows that is you (and maybe the friend you hauled in to help you with the rehearsals). Enjoy the feeling of being in cool, calm, collected control. Repeat frequently. Confident people usually look relaxed: keep your hands still, dont fidget and try not to tense up. A good relaxer: 33 deep, slow breaths. are comfortable with the way they look: just be well groomed and feel comfortable, so do whatevers necessary to achieve the state the French call bien dans sa peau which literally translates to Well in their own skin and then, crucially, forget about the way you look. Dont try to hold your midriff bulge in: let that skirt out or buy a bigger size so you can put it on, breathe easy and forget about it. have good posture: lift your chin, pull your shoulders down and back, imagine a thread going through the top of your head pulling you upwards. have good body language: it accounts for a surprising 55% of the overall impression we make, while what you say counts for a meagre 7%. The rest is down to the pitch, speed and volume of your voice. Whats good body language? Start with being relaxed and making sure your postures good.speak slowly: we tend to speed up when were nervous, so consciously slow down; its surprising how slowly you can speak before anyone asks you to get a move on! Easy tips to pick up a girl in a barThe Belle of 2009 Copyright reserved by go4uggboots.com About the Author:
