subject: Marriage Counseling Infidelity - Trying to Recover From a "It Was a Mistake" Situation? Here's Help [print this page] Marriage Counseling Infidelity - Trying to Recover From a "It Was a Mistake" Situation? Here's Help
Infidelity is a terrifying word to any husband or wife. There are many people looking for help in the category of the "marriage counseling infidelity." Why are they doing this? Because being cheated on is one of the biggest causes for break ups and divorces.
What's worse is that they leave the partner who got cheated on with a feeling of worthlessness. No couple wants to ever have to go to marriage counseling infidelity, but no relationship is perfect and we aren't immune to heartbreak.
With that in mind, marriages do survive infidelity, not all but some do. We believe that time will heal things, and we can rebuild and establish that trust. The only way to try and save the marriage isn't to let time heal the problem, or ignore them all together. Quite honestly the only way to fix things is to get help.
I've never been a fan of marriage counseling. While it may work for others, I've always stuck to three steps to fixing problems in a relationship. Those are to first identify and talk about the problems in the relationship. Once you identify those problems, you both make compromises and commitments to be dedicated to doing your part in fixing the problem.
Lastly, after you have establish your commitments and have met each other halfway in fixing those problems, you do things to ensure that the relationship or marriage won't be the same as it was. You be spontaneous toward your partner, making them think "This isn't something he would do for me..." or "I can't believe she did that for me..."
I'm no expert, but paying someone $45 to $200 a session to sit on a couch next to my lover and talk is something we can do at home like mature adults. When you do this, you're doing what you'd already be doing in counseling, and you wouldn't be digging in your pocket to do it.
When a spouse cheats, they do it because they may feel like they lost that emotional connection they had with you to go find it somewhere. While it may seem only for physical reasons, its actually emotional. Its emotional because if the bond was really strong between the two of you, your partner would never cheat. This is the truth.
If you choose to stay and try and fix your marriage after marital infidelity, find the reasons why he or she cheated and talk about it. The road to recovery will be long, but it can be done.
