subject: Anger Management - You're Furious At Someone [print this page] Anger Management - You're Furious At Someone
Who gets more hurt and upset when you get angry? Your anger will just make you feel worse, but it will likely not have any lasting effect on the person who hurt you. In fact, if the person intentionally hurts you, then you're giving him exactly what he wants by getting angry.
So what should you do? Here are some helpful insights to help with anger provoked by and targeted at someone:
1. Understanding Anger. Anger is very easy to provoke and can persist for a long time, especially when it has a specific target. When someone does anything to you that you don't like, whether intentionally or unintentionally, it's easy to start brewing cold, hard anger against that person.
What's most important is to understand yourself and be able to compartmentalize your anger. What makes you angry, the person or the action or offense? If you specifically focus your anger on the person, your anger will be there and will be triggered every time you see that person. But if you can separate the action from the doer, then you won't have to harbor feelings of hate towards a specific target.
The difference is that the action or offense passes and can easily get forgotten, especially if no permanent harm has been done. Once it passes, you will find no more reason to be angry.
2. Understand the Other Person. Everyone gets some bad days from time to time. Even the most polite, most mild-tempered people can get fired up when they are dealing with some problems or are under a lot of stress and pressure.
