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For many men, premature ejaculation happens during intercourse when they have an orgasm much earlier than they would like. This is a problem that haunts men from all walks of life that causes embarrassment and frustration.
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When the problem occurs once in a while, there really should not be too much cause for concern. But with most men it happens more often than not, and the desire to last longer in bed becomes great.
Quick orgasms in men are a common sexual complaint and can be caused by many different factors. The good news is that in most cases, premature ejaculation is not caused by any mental or physical illness. The most common causes include the programming of your genes, excessive teenage masturbation, body intensity, lack of self knowledge and sensitivity.
Causes of premature ejaculation
Premature ejaculation, defined by some as orgasm after less than two minutes of intercourse, effects one in three men and can be brought on by any number of reasons, including:
1. Learned Patterns: As masturbating teens, most males learn quick, surefire ways of getting off before getting caught. These responses become almost reflexive in nature, making it very challenging to unlearn them -- akin to unlearning muscle memory.
2. Stress/Anxiety: Both stress and anxiety activate a more cerebral part of the brain, which overrides the reptilian part responsible for controlling arousal. The endorphin rush further conditions the brain into inducing an ejaculation as a default stress-management mechanism when under the gun.
3. Control Issues: A male who derived passive pleasure from urinary control as a kid can get used to "letting things go" even as an adult, often for the same controlling reasons, however subconsciously.
Treatment of Premature Ejaculation
The "Squeeze" Technique
This method was developed by Masters and Johnson some decades ago. If a man senses that he is about to ejaculate, he simply withdraws from his partner, then him or his partner squeezes the shaft of his penis between a thumb and two fingers. The squeeze should be light and for about 20 seconds, then let go and resume sexual activity. The technique is repeated as often as necessary during intercourse. With practice, a man can gain good control over ejaculation without the squeeze.
The "Stop and Start" Method
This second method which was developed by Dr. Helen Kaplan helps men with premature ejaculation to recognize when they are about to climax and then to slow down or reduce stimulation in order to extend the time until ejaculation. By starting and stopping sexual stimulation you can learn to prolong the sex act.
Abstaining from Intercourse
Couples may be instructed to avoid sexual relations for a period of time to help reduce anxiety. This is beneficial as while avoiding intercourse they can spend time to focus on other types of sexual plays that eliminate pressure from the sexual encounters. This can help the man to connect and re-establish a satisfying physical bond with his partner.
More Foreplay
By engaging in more foreplay, couples can help each other achieve a state of high arousal by stimulating each other through kissing, cuddling, hugging, petting, stimulating the breasts, genitals, and other erogenous zones before copulating. This way, ejaculation and orgasm can be achieved almost at the same time by the couples.
Masturbation
In some cases, behavioural therapy may involve simple steps such as masturbating an hour or two before intercourse to help in the delay of ejaculation or stimulation of the partner to a state of arousal before copulating. Also since an ejaculation has already occurred, the man will now take a longer time to ejaculate when having sex with his partner.
