subject: Getting Your Ex Back by Staying Out of Touch [print this page] Getting Your Ex Back by Staying Out of Touch
After a breakup, there's one rule that everyone agrees will help in getting your ex back. It's called the 'no contact' rule and requires you to break off all ties with your ex. Though that doesn't sound conducive to getting your ex back, you'll be surprised how well it works.
You see, when you're no longer in touch with your ex, you give them space and time to heal and miss you. By disappearing on them, you'll get their curiosity going and they'll want to know where you are. It's human nature. But you also need to be aware that there are some exceptions to this 'no contact' rule; times when it no longer applies and needs to be relaxed:
- Family Ties
If you and your ex spent time with each other's families, it would be insensitive not to let your ex know what's happening with your family. By disappearing on your ex and not letting them in on big family news isn't the best way to get them back, so you might need to make an exception to the 'no contact' rule if there's a family emergency or major development.
- Carry on Communicating
Another exception to the 'no contact' rule is if your breakup caused mutual pain and hurt that needs to be sorted out before you stand a chance of getting your ex back. In this scenario, when there's a need to talk things out, becoming incommunicado isn't exactly the way to go!
- Your Ex Calls
After 3-4 weeks of doing the vanishing act during which you don't even take your ex's call, the next step is to return their call or reply to their email. Now's not the time to ignore them. You've stayed away in keeping with the 'no contact' rule, now reach out. Get out there! Be seen...
