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If you're faced with a scary prospect of a failed marriage and are worried sick that your marriage is about to end in a divorce, take heart. There is a way out. Read on for more...
Marriages aren't easy to maintain and we tend to underestimate the problems, hoping they'll eventually work themselves out. Sometimes they do and couples who were struggling to keep their marriage together, manage to rekindle the romance and love. But at other times, a separation becomes inevitable. If you're willing to work on your marriage, you still have a good chance to put your marriage back on solid ground.
Usually, when a marriage is in trouble, lack of communication is the main problem. Maybe over the years you've stopped talking about issues relating to your marriage. Have you got so caught up in your daily routines that finding time to talk is a problem? Or is it more a case of sweeping things under the carpet? Why bring up issues that'll lead to friction when they can be left unspoken? If that's the case, it's not a good sign at all. If you're avoiding sitting face to face and sorting things out for whatever reason, that needs to change.
If you're scared to bring up the issues between you and your partner since you feel that he/she will clam up and withdraw or it might lead to an argument, tell your spouse that this is not a verbal attack on him/her. Come across as calm and collected. And come what may, don't point fingers or let your tone become accusatory. Speak your heart out tactfully and request your partner not to interrupt, and then, switch roles. Let your partner do the talking and you listen with an open mind. This is an extremely crucial step when it comes to saving a marriage.
Set time aside once a month or bi-monthly to talk things out. Treat it like an appointment that's important and needs to be kept at all costs. Accepting each others point of view and trying to understand one another's feelings, will go a long way in strengthening your bond and clearing the underlying tension between you. Getting things off your chest should ease up the friction and make you both feel lighter. It's time for healing, compromising and letting things go...
