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The key to getting your ex back is keeping your respect and self worth. This means in the beginning you should not contact your ex. No matter how much you want to speak to your ex, you must not overwhelm them. You do not want to add to the confusion or risk making your ex angry. Getting your ex back does entail patience and I suggest you practice it.
If you have been dumped, the following is a list of things you should never perform if you want to get your ex back. You should not ask to see them only to ask your ex if they have changed their mind. Do not ever break down while professing your love as if you are a repeating record. What I am stating is that you should not exhibit intense feelings around your ex. This entails, begging, harassing, making promises and calling your ex family members to enlist them into your cause of getting your ex back.
You do not want to overwhelm your ex with neediness and pure desperation. If you perform such things you do not stand a chance of getting your ex back. Stop calling your ex and stop asking your ex questions. Stop seeking your ex's reassurance. People generally are not attracted to desperate people. People generally however are attracted to independence and confidence. If you want your ex back, you must display both of these traits.
You need to back off from your ex. Quit trying to contact your ex and gain control of yourself. If your ex has asked for time to think things through then I suggest you allow your ex that time. Patience is most definitely a virtue and you must display not only tolerance but also patience in trying to get your ex back.
You need to demonstrate the "no contact" rule. Give yourself thirty days at least. No contact should include not looking at pictures or anything, which reminds you of your ex. Do not go to places, which you and your ex frequented. Never tell your ex that you wish to have no contact with them, your actions will speak loud and clear for your ex to understand. If your ex contacts you via telephone, email or text messaging, unless it is a matter of life or death, do not reply to them. I suggest you begin a journal to write down your feelings during this period of your life. Some people have reported that this can be very therapeutic.
Ensure you have a backup if you start experiencing moments of weakness. This can be a friend or a family member who can offer you support or someone who can literally take the phone out of your hand if you suddenly decide to call your ex. After thirty days, feel free to contact your ex but on a casual level requesting to speak with them and take it from there.
