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Is it ever possible to truly move forward in a relationship after dealing with cheating and struggling with mistrust? The answer is yes! Let's see how to begin healing, repairing and rebuilding your relationship starting today.
I know it's hard to imagine your relationship returning to the way it use to be and I agree with you that it will never be the same. However, don't be so sure that it can't be different and better than it was before the affair occurred.
Whether you were the person who had the affair or the hurting partner in the relationship, it's possible to not just avoid divorce but use this experience to build a better relationship. I can say this confidently because so many couples have been able to repair their relationship and rebuild their lives. If they can do it why should your situation be any different?
Dealing with cheating and mistrust is no doubt one of the biggest problems a couple will ever have to work through. There is so many emotions that are involved that it takes some serious understanding, forgiveness and commitment to succeed in overcoming this issue.
As couples begin to start dealing with the cheating, mistrust will be a constant barrier which can easily slow down the restoration process.
There will be a natural tendency for the person cheated on to want to know where their partner is, who they are talking to, what they are doing on the cell phone or internet. It can be a constant struggle for couples to rebuild trust and not get bogged down by the person cheated on trying to catch his or her partner cheating again.
How to begin dealing with cheating and removing mistrust?
Make sure there is transparency in the relationship going forward. There should be no off limit areas in each others lives. The phrase "what's mine is your and what's your is mine" must be practiced in the relationship. No locked rooms or personal computer accesses or cell phone or telephone bills, or credit card bills, that feed the feelings of mistrust.
Communicate better and more often. Partners should know where the other person is going, why he or she is going and when they expect to return. If you are going to be late a call needs to be made and an explanation given. Don't wait until you get home to explain why you were late.
Set and agree on some boundaries in your relationship that will not only help rebuild trust but also help avoid misunderstandings or possible issues. For example, some couples have an agreement to not drive alone with a member of the opposite sex unless it's required or necessary. To some this seems extreme but I often wonder how many affairs have started by a co-worker innocently having lunch with or giving rides home to someone.
Dealing with cheating and mistrust, after an affair, will require patience and commitment by both persons.
However, with a little love, desire and guidance you can not just survive the affair but have a blissful relationship. I can't help you with the love and desire but for the guidance I have a suggestion for you.
I know you are going through difficult times but I also know if you have read this article then you have the love and desire to restore your relationship and I'm glad you haven't given up hope yet.
I want you to get some guidance from someone who is considered an expert and whose marriage is thriving many years after Dealing With Cheating.
See here to begin healing, rebuilding trust and your relationship: Dealing With Cheating.
