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Your lover has left you and, like the most of us in such situation, you want to get your ex back. Yes, we are all alike in this respect. We all want to be loved so your desire to get your ex back is not unusual. But if you really want to give your relationship another shot you need a good strategy to accomplish it. Love is not just a game of chance... it is also a game of strategy.
The rejected lovers, experiencing a tremendous amount of emotional pain, usually become so caught up in their own anguish that they are unable to take a logical, constructive steps to get their ex lover back. As a result what they do is counter productive. You must avoid this kind of behaviour if you want to successfully get your ex back.
These are three basic but absolutely crucial steps you need to take to get your ex back:
1. You have to give your ex some space
The usual reaction for almost every rejected lover after a breakup, is an obsession to reunite with an ex. To do it as soon as possible. They often fail understand that going through a breakup can be equally painful for the other party. The fact that you have been dumped doesn't necessarily mean that your ex is not experiencing a grief reaction because of the end of the relationship. She or he might not show it but it doesn't mean that they are not hurting inside. It is very likely that you ex needs time to think about what happened in your relationship... it takes time. If you want to get your ex back... give them some space.
2. Do not do anything
It is a continuation of the first step. If you want to get your ex back, you have to give yourself some time to learn to cope with an idea that your relationship with your ex is over at this point. No matter how hard it is, you have to respect their decision to end it. You need time to heal and you need time to get stronger.
Do not react negatively to the situation or let your emotions to take over you. During this stressful time you cannot let your loneliness and desperation take over you. Try to focus on other aspects of your life despite that it may be very difficult task to accomplish. Above all... do not do anything you would regret doing later.
3. Start over again when you both are ready
After at least a few weeks, when you think you are emotionally healed enough, and if the desire to get your ex back is still present... try to start at the relationship all over again. The important thing, you need to keep in mind, is that you cannot put any pressure on you ex to get back with you. It is always such a turn off.
If she or he expresses an interest in seeing you again, take it easy and slow. You want you ex to feel comfortable in your presence, to enjoy being with you again. The more you look at it as a beginning of a new relationship rather than a continuation of an old one, the greater chance that you will succeed. Leave the past behind you. Absolutely do not talk about the break up or ask you ex if they started dating anyone else.
