subject: 10 Ways to Not Blow Your Chances of Getting an Ex Back [print this page] 10 Ways to Not Blow Your Chances of Getting an Ex Back
Are you looking for advice to get your ex back? Then here's a secret: it's not enough to know "what to do." You also need to know what NOT to do, because getting your ex back is tricky and taking the wrong step might blow your chances.
1. Don't make any threats or blackmail. The dialogue "come back to me or else" won't work; and forcing your ex to come back to you will only make them run towards the opposite direction.
2. Taking revenge by spreading stories and revealing things about your ex is a low blow. Practice the phrase: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. Whatever things you know that would make your ex look bad and embarrass them, keep them to yourself.
3. "Terrorism" would be an appropriate word when you constantly text, email, call or stalk your ex. Trying to get hold of them and wouldn't stop until they reply isn't the best way to get their attention.
4. It's hard to accept the breakup, but arguing about it won't change things. So unless you want to make things worse by adding more arguments, accept the breakup and focus on how to make things right afterwards.
5. Don't let yourself go. Nothing screams depression and emotional disaster more than adding pounds, dying your hair a strange color and completely neglecting yourself. If you're going to try on a new look, make sure it's an improvement so your ex will know what they're missing.
6. When you're with other people and you feel down, you bring them down as well. The reason why you went out with friends is to have a good time, so let go of your negativity and forget your problems for a while.
7. You need to keep your emotions in control and alcohol can't do that for you. Oh sure, when you're drunk enough you wouldn't remember your problems. You wouldn't remember doing or saying something stupid to your ex either.
8. Unless you want your confidence in tatters, avoid pleading and begging. Have a shred of dignity because this tactic will do nothing except make you look needy and pathetic, and your ex wouldn't want to be with someone like that.
9. You've got your friends and your ex has theirs, so naturally their friends will side with them. Don't let it get to you if they start acting like immature kids and start to say things. If you get fired up and talk against them, it will only result to more conflicts. Shut them up and show them that they're wrong about you and that you're a better person.
10. A great advice to get your ex back is to stop being obsessive and start focusing on yourself. One of the fastest ways to blow your chances is to pay too much attention on your ex and the breakup and become restless and undesirable. So it's important to rediscover yourself.
