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The best time to prevent a relationship breaking up is before we commit ourselves to it. There is nothing wrong with trying to get out of a tight corner, but it is better still to avoid getting in there in the first place. When entering a relationship we should consider how it will satisfy our needs in these very important areas:
companionship
emotional support
sex
children
finance
household chores
interests, activities outside the relationship
career ambitions
personal goals
relatives
If we are clear about what we require from a relationship, this itself will highlight the attributes our partner should possess or will have to acquire. It will also indicate certain roles that will have to be performed if the relationship is to be a happy one. If we can see a relationship realistically in terms of the satisfaction we desire and are able to make this clear to our potential partner, it should be easier to reject someone who will not satisfy our needs. It is important that we see potential partners objectively and harbour no illusions that things will be alright on the day.
One way to assess needs within a relationship and determine a relationship's role is to carry out a personal audit; work out who we are, what our purpose in life is and clarify our desires.
This involves giving some thought to our feelings on a wide range of issues and how important each of them is to us.
It entails also asking and answering as earnestly and honestly as possible very searching questions about ourselves.
ISSUES
Philosophy to life
strongly held beliefs
keeping promises
keeping confidences
being hones
being faithful
willingness to compromise
self discipline
views on religion and politics
being law-abiding
confiding in partner
respecting partner's privacy
being tolerant of each others friends
demonstration of affection
emotional support
giving cards and presents
amount of time spent together
being informed of partner's programme
definition of love,romance,affection,good sex life
conventionally correct behaviour
criticism in public
home life
sharing chores
keeping records
budgeting
self image
individual freedom
individual satisfaction
looks, health and fitness
leisure interests
participating and winning
working for charity
making new friends
parent's/family approval
duty to parents/family
dealings with parents and in-laws
children and how to bring them up
personal development
career success
Hope this audit suits in, will be bringing in more, stay blessed.
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The best time to prevent a relationship breaking up is before we commit ourselves to it. There is nothing wrong with trying to get out of a tight corner, but it is better still to avoid getting in there in the first place. When entering a relationship we should consider how it will satisfy our needs in these very important areas:
companionship
emotional support
sex
children
finance
household chores
interests, activities outside the relationship
career ambitions
personal goals
relatives
If we are clear about what we require from a relationship, this itself will highlight the attributes our partner should possess or will have to acquire. It will also indicate certain roles that will have to be performed if the relationship is to be a happy one. If we can see a relationship realistically in terms of the satisfaction we desire and are able to make this clear to our potential partner, it should be easier to reject someone who will not satisfy our needs. It is important that we see potential partners objectively and harbour no illusions that things will be alright on the day.
One way to assess needs within a relationship and determine a relationship's role is to carry out a personal audit; work out who we are, what our purpose in life is and clarify our desires.
This involves giving some thought to our feelings on a wide range of issues and how important each of them is to us.
It entails also asking and answering as earnestly and honestly as possible very searching questions about ourselves.
ISSUES
Philosophy to life
strongly held beliefs
keeping promises
keeping confidences
being hones
being faithful
willingness to compromise
self discipline
views on religion and politics
being law-abiding
confiding in partner
respecting partner's privacy
being tolerant of each others friends
demonstration of affection
emotional support
giving cards and presents
amount of time spent together
being informed of partner's programme
definition of love,romance,affection,good sex life
conventionally correct behaviour
criticism in public
home life
sharing chores
keeping records
budgeting
self image
individual freedom
individual satisfaction
looks, health and fitness
leisure interests
participating and winning
working for charity
making new friends
parent's/family approval
duty to parents/family
dealings with parents and in-laws
children and how to bring them up
personal development
career success
Hope this audit suits in, will be bringing in more, stay blessed.
