subject: Ideas To Get Toddlers To Listen [print this page] If toddlers are such adorable and engaging little creatures, why are they such complete monsters when it comes to listening?
Sometimes it's absolutely critical that they listen, so here are some ideas to use to help them focus on you.
Use a keyword or phrase - Use a consistent signal that tells your child it's time to listen. Make it generic and make sure everyone in the household uses the same word. Make it fun! Try 'listen up' or 'yoo-hoo' or even a sound, like 'Bing!' Pretty soon they will use it on you, so get ready to start listening right back!
Eye contact - If you can get them to look you in the eye, a toddler is more likely to hear what you are saying. Make it easy on them: get down to their level and point their head in your direction. Soon your keyword will make them do this automatically.
Keep it positive - Parents say No a lot. It's their job. But it's not much fun to listen to, and even young ones get tired of it. Be sure to practice listening with some Yes statements, positive reinforcement, and praise. No one wants to listen to 'No' all day long.
Turn it off - If you want your child to hear you, make it easier for them by cutting out distractions. Turn off the TV, stereo, and electronic toys. You will instantly become the most interesting thing in the room. If you are out and about, try moving to a quiet spot, like a bathroom.
Quiet down - Sometimes when your child is ignoring you, your first instinct is to yell. Unfortunately, this doesn't work very well, plus it teaches your child that yelling is a good way to get attention. Instead, try using a quieter voice. If they ask you to repeat yourself, repeat it even quieter. Use your child's curious nature to lure them into listening.
Relax and focus - Take a break with your toddler and try this relaxing exercise. Raise your child's hands above their head, take a deep breath, then lower them and exhale. Repeat this two or three times. Holding their hands gets their attention, and the calming breaths will help them focus on you. (This is also a good way to relax an annoyed parent too!) Use your keyword or phrase and let them know what's on your mind.
Be patient, be consistent - This is the hardest thing to do. Learning a new skill, whether you're a toddler or a parent, is frustrating. So give your child, and yourself, a break. It won't happen overnight, but keep at it and it will happen eventually.
Listening is one of the most important skills parents teach their toddlers. The daily challenges can be exasperating, but they are a good time to practice for when it really is important.
