subject: Coping With Relationships And Depression [print this page] It is fairly common for couples who have recovered from significant relationship issues, such as a break up or separation, to experience relationship depression You might feel that its crazy to feel this way, because youve saved the relationship and are still together. Youre supposed to feel happy, not suffering from relationships depression.
But its fairly common because no matter how good the relationship might be going now you recently had a rough patch. If your biggest fear was that you would lose the other person, then shouldn't you be happy?
Going through that rough period can be devastating. You feel all sorts of emotions. If cheating was involved, the break up or cooling off period was probably even worse. If you were cheated on, you know theres nothing more painful that can happen over the course of a relationship.
And if you were cheating on and you forgave that person to stay in the relationship, its going to take some time to truly heal. No wonder you feel depressed! Youre putting yourself out there again after being hurt.
If you cheated and the other person forgave you, maybe you feel depressed because you hurt them and its just now sinking in? Or maybe you feel hounded, as if he or she suspects your every move? You also might be sad because maybe you actually didnt want to stay in the relationship and youre only now becoming aware of it.
If no cheating was involved, depression can still strike and make you feel bad. For whatever reason, you or your partner werent together, or were contemplating breaking up. Thats a hard pill to swallow!
Youre faced with knowing that maybe the other person was going to decide to live without you. Even though in the end they decided to stay with you, that they were considering something else is a painful thing!
And frequently relationships depression is brought on by fear. When things were over or almost over, you felt horrible. And you remember that feeling now. You might imagine, without really knowing it, how you would have felt if the relationship had not gotten back together.
Overall, a break up is one of the most painful things a person can go through, no matter what the reason. Even if you didnt officially split, things were tense enough that the chance was there. When a relationship ends, you go through the same thought processes and emotions as you do with any painful ending, like a death.
So its a very difficult life challenge to have a break up or a near break up. Its great that youve worked it out and gotten back together. Just stay strong in the relationship. Make sure thats where you really want to be, and the relationships depression will hoefully pass soon.
