subject: Dating Tips For Men- Don't Just Hide In Your Comfort Zone [print this page] Why do we avoid from facing reality? Why hide the truth with a lie? Come to think of it, all of us as human beings love to live in our comfort zones. This desire is born. Life, in its basic form hardly offers much comfort, both physical and mentally. We must identify ourselves and if we cannot do that, we created them. After all, there is no better alternative in life to "feel good."
So what is it that the first weeks or months in a dating scenario that makes it so jovial and boisterous? Reflect on this: firstly to find someone, find out if the chemistry is right, and if so, pursue it with positive energy. There are plenty of art but rarely commented on the pursuit of science, as even Shakespeare saying: love "of persecution." This implies an interaction of some of the most basic human emotions and thought processes. This is an area where Gurus dating advice would like to believe that they know what is happening.
But if you are looking for a "How-To" book on the market, there is little, speaking or addressing the problem of actually finding a date. Most people that are in a relationship, long after the couple has spent the early stages of courtship becomes difficult and uncomfortable. The memories are now treated as a struggle that the two spent in the initial stages, most couples that stick even in the later months.
One of the most important factors in the early days of being romantic (consider the first 60 days) leading to the couple through is what I call the "syndrome of the novelty." Just like when we got a new toy in childhood. The pure excitement of meeting someone, it opens new perspectives in your head and makes you go blind and start to believe a few white lies. You are just in a mood to deal with the warning signs as they appeared, but if you do, you can avoid the many pitfalls which you may encounter ahead.
It is important to remember something important about human nature. Nothing "new" celebrates its "new" after a while. A new car, new home, a new bike eventually loses out on its "new" appeal. Even in a relationship, why has to fade out? What happened to that spark? It occurs mostly because "he knew" almost completely and started taking it for granted. The secret behind any successful relationship that lasts has a lot to do with investment and reinvestment of time, love, care and trust. The saying, "you reap what you sow", is very true in a human relationship. Obviously you will learn through many mistakes.
