subject: Win Your Ex Back After Having an Affair During the Relationship [print this page] Win Your Ex Back After Having an Affair During the Relationship
Simply cheating on your significant other is one thing, but when you pursuit an affair throughout the duration of the relationship, it is very difficult to win your ex back. If you cheated on that person, sometimes it can be forgiven, but when it has turned into a relationship with another person, you are on a entirely new playing field of lying, and being deceitful. The first step in winning your ex back is to end the affair and show them how much you really care.
It is imperative that you reflect on why the affair began in the first place. Most people have affairs simply because their lives have became to boring, repetitive, and monotonous. The affair may be entertaining and exciting for awhile, but will soon fizzle and fade, and you will want to win your ex back. Remember the person you are having an affair with is not the person who loves you unconditionally, and cares for you and your family. Under no circumstances is it acceptable socially or morally to have an affair, and you simply have to stop.
The question really is, do you admit to having the affair to your love, or keep it a secret so it does not devastate the other person. If you are a person who can keep a secret, and not let it, effect your everyday life, then I would say keep it to yourself. This is because most people admit to having affairs for their own selfish reasons, and to avoid feeling guilty. They do not care how much it hurts the other person, as long as they feel better about the situation on the inside. Not all times is this the solution to winning your ex back, but for some, it is found to be more effective
If you decide not to tell your significant other you are having an affair, then you need to end all communication with the other person immediately. If you do decide to tell your significant other this, just keep in mind that if they find out you will never win your ex back. Not only does this ruin the trust, but also anything the relationship stood for. If it is not possible for the ex to find out, and you are sure of this, use it as a learning experience, and never do it again. This avoids a heart-wrenching break up, and all of the apologies that will mean nothing to your lover.
