subject: Getting Your Ex Back - It is Crucial That You Also Take Care of Yourself [print this page] Getting Your Ex Back - It is Crucial That You Also Take Care of Yourself
Being through a break up can be a very bitter experience and the feeling of loss that is felt after a relationship can be really strong. When an old relationship dissolves nothing can lessen the sadness and make you feel better. Whether you decide to get your ex back or let the love die comes later. But first you have to deal with your broken heart and shattered self confidence. It is a crucial factor in getting your ex back.
A break up can be mentally very distressing and shattering, you not only lose the love of your life but it also affects your self esteem and self confidence. So, for getting your ex back you first need to get your emotions under control and concentrate on yourself. In such a situation you often end up in a rebound relationship. A rebound relationship doesn't usually work out and only causes you more sorrow and heartache.
It would be in your best interests to concentrate on yourself and slow things down till you are able to think clearly. If you feel that you have to get your ex back then don't just run to them and start begging and pleading. Think sensibly and avoid doing anything that might cause you even more sorrow.
Confide in a friend and talk things out with them. Tell them what all happened and ask them for their advice. A third person will have an unbiased opinion of the situation and will be more objective in their thinking. You are the hurt party so you might take silly decisions but an outsider will be able to think rationally and come up with a solution. If you really want to get your ex back then listen to their advice carefully.
You might feel desperate to get your ex back and so you may contact your ex. Don't act desperately as this will only be bad for you. If you really want to get your ex back then you need to be calm and take thing slowly. Be casual and slow in your approach, let things develop on their own. Give your ex time and space to think about you, miss you and realize that they actually want you back in their life.
Date other people casually and give yourself time to settle down. Make new friends and when your ex sees that you are moving on in life and are no longer needy, they will be once again attracted to you. You will be one step closer to getting your ex back. Once they have been wooed again, you need to take things slowly and be cool about it. If you and your ex are meant to be together then it will be.
