subject: Avoid These Blunders If You Still Want to Get Your Ex Back! [print this page] Avoid These Blunders If You Still Want to Get Your Ex Back!
After a break-up most of us react in a negative way without realizing that it spoils our chances of getting our ex back. These blunders seem so natural in the heat of the moment, but once committed, the damage can't be undone. And these mistakes usually happen in the first 3 days following a break-up. So, watch out for these blunders if you want to get your ex back:
1. Don't indulge in abusing or blaming your ex. It'll only make things worse. And your ex is bound to move further away from you.
2. In your keenness to get your ex back, avoid convincing your former partner that you've changed. And since you've improved on yourself, the relationship will be healthier if your ex were to come back. You're just deluding yourself... No one can change overnight.
3. Don't lose your self-respect by begging your ex to return to you. You probably don't feel too good about yourself after the break-up and you certainly don't need another blow to your self confidence!
4. Don't try making your ex feel guilty for having broken up with you. Even if you do succeed in melting his/her heart, it's not going to last. Sooner or later, your ex will walk away again and might even end up hating you for using this ploy.
5. Avoid the sympathy angle. Crying and breaking down in front of your ex in order to show them how badly the break-up has affected you, is not going to win your ex over. Even if he/she softens up, this too won't last. And if your former partner sees through the act, you can forget about a reconciliation!
6. Don't declare your undying love for your ex. The break-up was initiated by your ex, so it's more about your ex's feelings towards you and your relationship, rather than your feelings.
7. Avoid using logical analysis and theories to convince your ex to come back! That won't work. Only love can make it work!
8. Avoid trying to elicit support from your ex's family and friends. Even if they like you, it's quite sad if you have to involve third parties to persuade your ex to give it another shot! Your ex should come back because he/she wants to, not because someone told him/her to!
9. Avoid buying flowers or gifts for your ex. Even if he/she were to accept these presents, it doesn't say much... Plus, don't you think your ex will see through your motive?
10. Don't put pressure on your ex to return to you. The more pressure you apply, the more he/she is bound to move further away from you. And you don't want him/her to withdraw, do you?
Considering these blunders seem natural and almost instinctive after a break-up, you've probably made some of these mistakes already. But don't worry about it. What's done is done... Just make sure you don't make more blunders or you'll end up ruining your chances of getting your ex back...
