subject: How to Spot Marriage Problem Signs [print this page] How to Spot Marriage Problem Signs How to Spot Marriage Problem Signs
Being married has its up and downs, the really mushy days, and the downright miserable days. But how do you spot the marriage problem signs that make the downright miserable days the majority of your day to day life? Despite your initial denial, in every marriage, there would always be problems, the questions you should ask yourself, which among them will raise the red flag?
A major marriage problem sign is the loss of communication. If you start talking about household stuff and which of your kids got into what trouble, that's not communicating between lovers. That's communicating between parents. You need to recapture the connection you had established as lovers. Talk about everyday things not related to household, be interested on what goes on in your spouse's life, and let them feel that they can rely on you for support for their problems. It may be awkward at first if you had ceased talking like these a long time ago, but stay sincere and it will all fall into place. Fail at that and the marriage is lost.
Another marriage problem sign with a big flashing red flag you should be aware about is the conflict that arises from problems left unaddressed. In case you have forgotten, marriage is teamwork, and as teammates, you have to be able to discuss strategies to avoid or tackle the problem. If an issue is left unresolved due to flaring tempers, take the time to cool down, and then take it up again. Learn to back down if your spouse's suggestions make sense, and speak up if you have a better alternative. Turn everything into a nice even conversation between adults and not like kids challenging each other on whose better. You're adults, act like one and deal with the situation maturely. Get past that, and you live to have another shot at wedded bliss.
