subject: 27 Lessons We've Learned In 2010 About Life, To Take Into 2011! [print this page] 27 Lessons We've Learned In 2010 About Life, To Take Into 2011!
1. If there's one thing holding you back from where you're going, do whatever you can to change it! Use all your strength to break through the barrier, focus all your energy on succeeding against the ugly barriers of fear, lack, negative belief, whatever.
2. Learn to follow your gut and turn a deaf ear to ego and sentimentalism. Sometimes we make decisions based on guilt, fear, negativity and later we have to dig ourselves out of it. Unlucky people are constantly listening to their pride, logical thinking, sentimentality, tradition--ego based thinking. Whenever you listen to your ego you have a small chance of making the right descisions. Focus on what makes you happy, not others.
3. Don't wait around for other people. Other people can take months, years, even decades to change. You don't have to wait that long if you don't want to. Don't let your happiness depend on what someone else does. When you take responsability for your own life you begin to feel an amazing sense of independance and inner peace. Because now, you're living on your own terms and you're living your own identity, not someone else's.
4. Wishful thinking is not thinking big. Wishful thinking is saying, "I'm going to be rich tomorrow" but not lefting a finger. If you set goals way above your level of experience, consider taking a step back. Wishful thinking is dellusional thinking, it seldom helps you grow. Set goals that will help you grow, not ones that are so far out that you don't even know where to start.
5. Make the rightdecisionsearly and stick with them all year long. Make descisions fast, don't sit around and think about them for two months, it's a waste of time. Don't jump to something different every month. Stay focused. The reason you may be jumping around is that you don't believe in what you're doing. Get conviction for something, build a solid foundation and you won't be tempted to change around constantly.
6. Stay in bed with uncertainty. Nothing's for certain and you'll only make yourself a nervous wreck if you think your plans need to be set in stone. Putting your faith in things like goals, plans, family, fall backs, etc will only create more stress. An attitude of, "I don't know what's going to happen, but I'll take it in stride and handle it" is a perfect attitude for life. I'm always certain in uncertaintly, I'm very surprised when things turn out exactly the way I envisioned.
7. Don't be attached to the outcome. The process is the most important part. Friends, connections, skills, insights, experiences are made along the way, not at the end. The end is just a snapshot in time, we don't live snapshots. We live from moment to moment, Living in one mement is a very easy way to miss alot of your life. Get lost in the process and you'll love what you do. Learn to stay present and avoid looking at the scoreboard. Get lost in the process and you'll love what you do.
8. Save and invest your money. 10-20% at least.
9. Approach everything with a student mantality. Life's about learning, not about knowing.
10. Take time to learn and reflect from the past. Ask the right questions like, "What did I do right?" and "What would I do differently next time?" Reflection clears the mind and you make sense of the past and gives you direction going into the future.
11. Everything you do, do with confidence. Speak with confidence, walk with confidence. Handle all situations in a calm, confident manner. If you're not confident, just fake it until you make it.
12. Time passes in a flash, dont' wait for tomorrow. If there's something you really want go after it with everything you've got! Blink once and a year's gone, blink twice and a decade's gone. Hesitate and you die.
13. Know what you want. At the end of the day, no matter how many goals you have, there are always those few that would do it for you, even if the rest never materialized. Focus on the few that will change everything.
14. Anything worth doing is worth doing 100%. If you're half-ass you're not winning. 15. Make lots of money, it can't hurt you.
16. Always improve to the percentage that the task requires. The tasktakes30% more skill than you have, step it up 30%.
17. Don't expect too many things out of one year.
18. Working smart is the way to go but if you're going for the gold you will have to bust ass more often than not and put in the extra hours--hard work still rules, provided it's at the right task.
19. Priorities are priorities. They will let themselves known quickly. Decide what's important to you and put it on the top of your list.
20. Extroverts have a clear advantage over introverts. Introverts make bad salespeople, bad personal and boring friends. In business and life you need to speak out or you get mowed over.
21. People need to see what you mean. Dialog is a bottom feeder. Body language is something worth reading up about.
22. Stop having bitter conversations with people who have nothing else to talk about but the "same old." Small talk is okwhen getting to know someone but it's pointless and wasteful when you're down the road. Especially when small talk is constantly focused on the negative.
23. Step it up a notch. Step up your game. Don't just hang out, have a party. Don't just build a business, build an empire. Don't just watch TV, watch box office hits. "If you're going to do something stupid, at least do it right."
24. When you get a good relationship, whether business partner/clientor personal, don't take it for granted and don't try to over impress or get needy. People are attracted to you or your business because of who you were when they first met you. You might have made a really good impression, but kicked it afterwards somewhere along the line for various reasons. Put simply, keep your relationships. Don't get needy, take them for granted, give less and less, devalueor become stagnant. Follow through with your words and put actions before words, people watch very closely.
25. Your social masks are useful only to an extent. The mask you put on for your parents. The mask you put on for your friends. Don't constantly pretend to be someone you're not just to impress others or to avoid social stignatism. Be real with people and you wont have to worry about keeping a clean front.
26. Grow a thick skin. If you want to win big, be the predator, not the prey. The prey is victem to everything the world has to throw at them. The predator attacks challenges, takes charge of his own life and has a sense of power and courage.
27. The purpose of education is to learn, not to rub in other people's faces.
