subject: Are You In A Stop And Go Relationship [print this page] Sometimes it might be hard to tell if you are in a real relationship with someone or not. It might be because you are always breaking up and making up time after time. It could be a recurring issue that is causing the splits or it could be something new each and every time. Do you think the time has to let go and will you be able to do it for good this go around?
It all depends on what you really want out of life and whether or not this is the way you want to spend it. With some couples it might take at least a few times of breaking up and then getting back together to work through some real issues that are evidently important to at least one of you. If you get back together and that problem is solved, then it can be entirely possible to move forward and stay together.
If you seem to be coming to the very same crossroads with each other every time you have a problem, you have to determine whether that issue is something that can ever be solved or not. If one partner or the other has a problem with staying faithful, it could be insurmountable. If one or the other has an addiction like drugs or alcohol, this too could be insurmountable, but a cure is possible if the afflicted party wants it bad enough.
It takes a strong love to be able to do the constant in and out of the relationship, but what you have to ask yourself is, is that love a productive and healthy love or it is simply destructive? One partner might be perfectly content to go back and forth and in and out, but many times the other partner will eventually get enough and finally get out.
If you find that you are wishing more often that you were out of the relationship than in it, but you can not seem to break the habit of going back, then perhaps it is time for you to seek some professional help. A good therapist can help you understand why you are a sucker for punishment and help you determine how much of the fault in the relationship disasters might be your own. If you find that you are causing some of the issues and you think you can change, then it might be worth saving. If you are totally convinced that the partner you are with is the total cause of the relationship failure and they are not likely to change, it might very well be time for you to bail out for the last time.
