subject: If A Man Always Hides His Cell Phone, Should You Worry That He's Cheating? [print this page] If A Man Always Hides His Cell Phone, Should You Worry That He's Cheating?
I sometimes hear from women who tell me that they're concerned about the fact that their husband or boyfriend seems to be hiding his cell phone from them. Some of these women tell me that the husband goes so far as to take the cell phone with him in the bathroom or to bed. It seems as if the guy isn't willing to leave the phone alone for even one second. And, usually if the woman asks him about this, he makes light of the situation or tells her that she's overreacting or that he's afraid that he's going to miss a work related call or text.
The wives have their doubts about these explanations which is why they end up asking me about the validity of them. Sometimes, the answer lies in evaluating the totality of the situation, the circumstances that surround it, or in taking matters into your own hands. I'll discuss this more in the following article.
Is There Any Logical Or Innocent Reason For A Man To Hide His Cell Phone?: There may be a few, but it's hard to come up with them. I've known of men being secretive about their phones when they are planning a surprise for the women in question, but this usually becomes evident pretty quickly. If this is an ongoing thing, it's only natural to be concerned. Most people who are cheating use their cell phones to communicate with the person who they are cheating with and this is how many of them get caught.
Sure, every one wants or needs their privacy, but it's hard to come up with a logical reason that a man would be so terrified of his loved one going through his cell phone that he never parts with it (unless he has something to hide.) Ask yourself why you yourself would feel the need to hide your phone. Most people would have to answer that they would only hide the phone when they needed to hide it's contents.
Admittedly, no one likes to think that their spouse is snooping on them, but faithful spouses also know that there is usually nothing on their phone that warrants always having it in a secret location. My opinion on this is that yes, you should be concerned about cheating (or at least some wrongdoing) if your man is always hiding his phone from you. Why else would they be doing this? He's arguably hiding something. Whether that something is cheating or not is usually pretty easy to determine.
What To Do When A Man Hides His Cell Phone And You Suspect That This Means Cheating: Women often ask me if they should directly ask their man why in the heck he's always hiding the phone. You can try this approach, but if you do, you run the risk of him knowing that you suspect him and he may therefore cover his tracks better. Many men will eventually stop hiding the phone because they've had to buy a new one that they use specifically for their cheating in order to address your suspicions. This makes it harder for you to catch them in the long run.
As I see it, you have a few choices. You can ask them directly about the phone and then, if you're not satisfied, you can demand answers. Or, you can try to get a hold of the phone at some point (he has to let down his guard at some point) and see just what he is hiding from you. (There are tools that will let you see this even if he's deleted or protected everything.) Finally, you can forget about the phone and look for evidence of cheating in other places. You can also often find evidence on his computer or in his car also.
My husband's cell phone was the clue that ended up allowing me to catch him cheating. I learned how to get the proof on it that he thought that he had hid and erased. This made me angry enough to confront him, and he had no choice but to come clean. You can read a very personal story at http://catch-the-cheating.com/
