subject: He's Not Ready to Commit? Tips to Get Him to Crave Commitment [print this page] He's Not Ready to Commit? Tips to Get Him to Crave Commitment
So you're crazy about a man and he's not ready to commit? Frustrating, isn't it? You have visions of a happily-ever-after future with him and he has visions of you two continuing as dating partners indefinitely. What's a girl to do when she's stuck in the middle of a situation like this? Are you best off to cut all ties and try and find a man who appreciates the value in a serious relationship or do you bide your time and wait for your guy to see the light? If you can't imagine being with anyone else but a commitment is truly important to you, you need to change how your guy sees commitment. There are several subtle things you can do that will help him see that being in a serious relationship with you is fulfilling and exactly what he needs.
If he's not ready to commit, no amount of pressure from you is going to change his mind. In fact, if you continually push him by talking about how much you want to be married and how disappointed you are that you're not, he'll pull back. He may pull back so much that the relationship will begin to fall apart. This is not the approach to take. Instead, you want to put the idea of a commitment on the back burner for now. At the very least, stop talking about it when you're with him. If he doesn't feel that he has to worry about the issue, he'll see it as less threatening, which is a very good thing.
One major reason why many men hesitate when it comes to taking their relationship to the next level is a fear of loss of freedom. Many men envision their life completely changing after they commit to their girlfriend. They imagine losing contact with all their male friends and having to forgo their favorite pastimes to spend time with their woman. You don't want your guy to feel this way at all. To ensure that doesn't happen keep your own life dynamic and fulfilling apart from him. Go out with your girlfriends, chase your passions and show him that you're not about to sacrifice everything for him either. If he sees this type of behavior from you, he'll feel more at ease about committing.
Make sure he knows every day that you love him and that your love does not hinge on whether or not you get an engagement ring from him. If he knows that you adore him and that you accept him for who he is, he'll feel a closer emotional bond with you. By being understanding and compassionate with him, he'll come to realize that you truly are unique and special and the only woman for him.
