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You want to get your ex back in your life. We all do. You have tried all the known methods of getting your ex back but still find yourself spot-jogging. You are standing at the same point where you began. Nothing seems to work for you and you are gradually getting disillusioned, whether it is possible to get back your ex at all. First of all you must appreciate that there is no standard formula for getting your ex back. Each method has its own drawbacks and benefits. You never know which might and which might not work well for you.
However there is nothing to lose hope. There are millions of people who have succeeded in getting back their exes. The 5 tips given below is a compilation of some of the tried and tested methods to get your ex back:
1. Learn to handle the separation with as much grace as possible. Do not treat it as a disaster for which you were not prepared. Remember there must have been tell tale signs for the imminent break up, except that you chose to ignore them.
2. Keep the bickering, complaining and abusing out when you want to get your ex back. There is hardly any point in trying to 'convince' your ex, as at that time, he/she usually thinks irrationally. All logical ideas fall on deaf ears.
3. Even if you highly tempted to do so, never undermine your rival. While you do not have to shower praises on this person, you do not have to show any curiosity or interest in the person also, leave alone being abusive about him/her. Act in such a way, as if you are seeing through his/her presence. Of course never say rude or bad things about your rival. This only alienates your ex from you.
4. Both in your communication as well as demeanor never show that you are jealous, angry and repenting. Act calm as if, the separation is the best thing that could have happened to both of you.
5. Immediately after separation do not attempt to get in touch with your ex. The best thing to do under the circumstances is to take the NC or No Contact strategy. Let your ex wonder forever where you might be or what you must be doing. In fact, ignore his/her attempts to re-establish contact. Even if by chance or due to proximity of same neighborhood etc, you do bump into your ex, pretend that everything is as hunky dory as it can be and that you are neither angry nor remorseful.
There is one vital thing you have to keep in mind that any separation is carried out with a deliberate and serious intention and it all depends on the determination and stubbornness of your ex, to undo whatever has been done. The 5 tips given above have worked with most people and there is no reason why they should not work for you too. You can get your ex back too.
Whatever you do to get your ex back, never do anything in haste or without thinking about the pros and cons of your action. More often than not, separation from your ex can be a blessing in life. The best judge to decide on this is none other than you. Take calculated risks in whatever efforts you deploy to get your ex back, and with time and patience by your side, there is no reason why you should not win.
