subject: Getting Your Ex Back - Be Prepared to Pay the Price of Trying to Get Your Ex Back [print this page] Getting Your Ex Back - Be Prepared to Pay the Price of Trying to Get Your Ex Back
It is very likely that you are like the most of rejected lovers. You want to get your ex back. Perhaps the worst part about trying to get your ex back is the kind of toll it takes on our minds and sometimes even on our pockets! So before you start making efforts to get your ex back, keeping the following in mind would help:
You are making yourself doubly vulnerable while trying to get your ex back. Over and above the hurt which has already been caused, there are chances that you would fail to get your ex back. This means you go through the pain all over again.
Often efforts like getting your ex back have little to do with 'love'. On the contrary we are merely trying to repair a damaged ego.
Be ready to eat some humble pie on the way. There is every possibility of you getting insulted in public, rebuked for your inadequacies, being subject of a malign campaign or even threatened with dire consequences. Depending on the nature and personality traits of your ex as well as his/her new lover, you might be endangering your life and job too. We read about these things in the newspaper. Unless they happened, they would not report them, right?
Sacrificing or foregoing the ego is one of the toughest things to do, and it applies to everyone including the most stoic amongst us. The reason for this is that ego is what makes us what we are. So the sheer act of bending to someone and pleading with him/her to come back immediately eats into your ego. This does not in any way prevent you from saying you are sorry. But do not get carried away and allow yourself to be mentally raped all over again.
One of the primary reasons we feel so hopeless and remorseful after separation from a lover is that somewhere down the line our ego gets a bashing. But remember, when you make overt attempts to get your ex back, you have to be prepared to take another ego bashing, which is even more hurtful than the first time.
It is common for men and women to travel long distance and pay for it through their nose, simply to try and get their exes back. Of course there is nothing wrong in taking such actions, but take a close look at your own finances so that you do not land in bankruptcy before your ex has got back to you.
Be prepared to take the blame squarely on your shoulders for everything that went wrong in the relationship. Most of us argue and debate and try to justify our stance in a particular situation. This can be very tiring and tedious and has a lasting impact on your mind, even after your ex has come back.
Be prepared to face any verbal assault that you may have to counteract. Try to keep your calm, when subjected to such words - but then it takes a toll on the mind.
Ultimately it all depends on your mental stamina, perseverance and earnestness of intention that can help you get your ex back, even there are innumerable hardships on the way. Keep in mind that getting your ex back is not always about the sunsets and rainbows. The price to pay might be quite high.
