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Sadly, millions of relationships go sour each day. Some end up in separation while others manage to recover to regain their footing. Losing a loved one can be one of the most riveting experiences of one's life. It can be so traumatizing that some people get into depression and even commit suicide. If you have been left by a loved one, you understand that it can be a miserable ordeal. As we mentioned, many relationships are never mended but some do get reborn into a better stronger and more vibrant relationship. Would like to get your ex back? Before you do that, there is a mindset that you have to get rid off.
You absolutely need your ex This is one lie that many people in distraught situations such as a breakup of a relationship tell themselves. By perpetuating this lie to themselves, they keep themselves in a subservient mind frame where they are ripe for abuse and mistreatment. One your ex discovers that you regard them larger than life itself; you will open the door for maltreatment. Convince yourself that you can indeed live life without them and that your life is not on hold simply because they have departed.
Get busy
Once you convince yourself that life is indeed livable and enjoyable without your ex, you can then proceed to actually live. If you want to get your ex back, you must busy yourself with something that makes life worthwhile. You can spend your time with your children if you had any, or go back to school to pursue your career. You can also take an extra hobby that you were probably unable to do because of the relationship. These ventures make your life worthwhile and as long as you keep busy you will avoid sinking into the quicksand of depression.
Don't contact your ex
This can be easier said than done. If you feel wronged or unjustly treated, you will no doubt experience an overwhelming desire to contact your ex and make things right. Sometimes you may realize that you cannot simply make things right over the phone or in one conversation, but you have "important things" that you need to say to your ex. In many cases this is fueled by anger and can totally ruin your chances of getting your ex back. Avoid this and instead exercise self-control.
Whenever you feel this overwhelming urge to email them, texts message them or call them, resist by doing something in the exact opposite. The reason contacting your ex can be detrimental to your winning them back is because you are not in their good books just yet and it is too soon for them to have developed a healthy view of you. They have also not started missing you yet and feel that they are perfectly able to live their lives without you. Contacting them simply reinforces their notion that you cannot live without them, which will be grounds for more mistreatment of you by them.
