subject: Getting Your Ex Back - Heal From a Failed Relationship Before Attempting to Get Your Ex Back [print this page] Getting Your Ex Back - Heal From a Failed Relationship Before Attempting to Get Your Ex Back
If you are still in love with your ex you will find yourself not knowing if you should move on or attempt to get your ex back. If you feel you should move, on then what you are going to need will depend solely on how bad the failed relationship ended. If it was serious drama that truly took its toll on you emotionally, then you more than likely will need lots of time to recover while getting over the failed relationship.
You must first take care of yourself. Some people testify that even if the relationship ended badly, they still have very strong feelings for their ex, this is where getting your ex back can become very emotionally draining.
You must be precise and selective when looking for help in not only getting through the pain of the breakup but also quite possibly getting your ex back. You must remain focused on yourself while healing. You will not be able to successfully get your ex back until you have grieved the failed relationship and worked on what matters to you outside of the failed relationship.
If you feel you need to talk to a professional to aid you in putting the failed relationship behind you or maybe place the failed relationship into a new perspective, you should perform this. In a situation where you are still feeling vulnerable, the more soon, you regain your composure the better. Your self-esteem will thank you for this wise move.
If you find that you sincerely want your ex back, you must make sure that you implement strategies that bring you within full circle with your ex. Take care of yourself and first, talk to a professional who can offer an unbiased opinion as well as sound advice. Keep in mind, the paid professional will focus on your needs as compared to the needs of your ex. Before jumping into getting your ex back, you need to recover from your obvious self-esteem issues while focusing on the new direction your life is leading you.
Once you have regrouped, you can then begin the process of getting your ex back. You can make contact with your ex. Ask for a face-to-face meeting in a neutral place. You want your ex to feel comfortable as compared to uncomfortable. When you do meet up with your ex, calmly explain that you still contain feelings for them. Explain what you have been going through and how you want another chance to work on the failed relationship.
Take the time to listen to what your ex has to say. No matter what your ex says, you must respect their decision of reconciling or not reconciling. If you do not get your ex back during this face-to-face meeting, remain mature and calm. One never knows what the future holds. Before walking away from the conversation with your ex, ensure they understand that you want them back and how you feel for them.
Give your ex time to think things over and wait for them to contact you. No system is fail proof and you have to be prepared in knowing that your ex may not want you back. If your ex does not want you back you can walk away knowing you tried your best to get your ex back. Do not beat yourself up if there is no reconciliation while knowing that getting your ex back is not an easy task and you have done the best you could.
